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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi there..Long story but I'll try and shorten it. I'm 35 now. When I was 17 I had a bit of a romance with an older man who was 28 and separated. He worked for my parents. It only lasted a couple of weeks as we felt guilty and the age difference etc. He moved away. Months passed but he came back to work for a little while and we started our fling again and it lasted three months, until he moved away again. Over the years we got on with our lives, I always had disasters with other men and this particular man was my first love. However when I was 23 we decided to meet up again. By this time he had a girlfiend, which I know was wrong of both of us. We met twice and were supposed to meet up again. About two weeks before we were to meet I actually met another man. I fell for him quickly and knew he was "the one".. I rang my old flame and said I had met someone and wanted to make a go of it and that I wouldnt contact him again. I remained true to my word. I was with my new man for eleven years. We were best friends. We got married and had a child. I thought we were happy. Then out of the blue a few months ago he left me. I was so hurt and devastated. It was so sudden. I have tried to get my life back on track and am getting there. However.. out of the blue via one of the reunite old friends website I got a message from my old flame.. He had found my name on one of those sites and left me an email. 12 years and no contact... split from Husband and he's back in touch.. strange coincidence. the last few months we have been emailing and reminiscing and emails have been flirty. He says he is single now. So we have both been through marriage break ups. A couple of weeks ago I asked him how he'd feel about meeting up again. He said he'd love to. I know it's ironic.. he was my first... then my last before I met the man I married. Now he could be my first again.. I dont want to meet a new man just yet. Would find it to hard to trust anyone. However, so far we have only communictaed via email.. no phonecalls yet, which I am a bit irritated at. I want to talk to him, but am leaving that ball in his court. Is it madness to go back over old ground after all these years.. we could finally have a bit of a fling without worrying about my parents, his age, partners etc... is it fate? Should we meet up again?
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