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writes: I had been in a relationship with a classmate of mine and he called it quit alleging that I had been cheating on him with a close friend and a fellow classmate which is not true. In as much as i would say that I have let go, I don't know how to treat him now that he broke my heart and we are in the same class. I have not seen him since he did that to me but I will be doing that as soon we re-open.At times I feel that I can be friends with him but at other times feel that he doesn't deserve to be my friend anymore. His friends are also my friends. Should i drop my friends for his benefit? Am confused Please advice
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 Well I dont think you should drop your friends for his benefit. If you isolate yourself then you will be lonely and most likely more miserable. I think you need to see how things go between you two when you meet again, sometimes the anticipation of the event is worse than the actual event itself.
I think cutting him off as your friend might cause some problems as your other friends might feel obliged to choose which wouldnt be good. It seems you have moved on alot - part of moving on is not letting it affect you anymore and if you make descisions based on it then it is still affecting you. Hope that helps.
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reader, Ryder  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 Well not knowing your classmate there might be a couple of reasons for him accusing you of cheating:
1. He has a weak personality and got conviced by his friends that you are cheating and his friends which are yours envy you and might be jelous and caused you both to break up.
2. He might be in love with another girl or someone else and didnt know how to break up with you so he made up a stupid reason when he could have been honest and said it.
If i were in your position i would'nt realy drop your friends unless you don't like them or know them that well, otherwise they would really get mad if you did that cause its not something a true friend would do.
Just treat him like any loser you dislike he is nothing in your life anymore unless you want him to be, if its over between the 2 of you then its over you can still be friends with his friends if they dont mind but you dont have to talk to him as he is not part of your life anymore.
Oh and most guys when they break up with a girl its impossible for them to become friends again they think of you as their enemy or so as a guy myself all my friends do this and i dont know why they cant accept the concept of being friends.
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