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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi,I am in a relationship with a great guy,love him to bits.The problem is we had sex a while ago for the first time and we both said it was our first time. The thing is I had dated another guy (for like 2 years) before going out with the new guy. We did "everything but" but I still always thought of myself as a virgin, it was a while ago and I honestly can't remember whether the old BF had slightly entered me or not while messing around. I mean we never fully penetrated and had sex but it is possible he might have pushed in a little.I know it sounds weird but can someone help me here? Was I a virgin? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 January 2010):
 To quote another AUNT/UNCLE
A male reader, Sal84 +, writes (23 January 2010):
Hi, Do u play any sports? Go Trekking? Physical excercise or Work out? Ride Horses?(The Real Ones)or any other strenerous physical activity? If yes then there is an 80% chance that you lost your virginity doing any of the above.
THAT is wrong. You don't loose your virginity. You can however loose your hymen doing these.. Big difference. You loose virginity when a male PENETATE the vagina.
You ex BF took your "anal" cherry not your virginity. In my opinion.
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reader, Sal84  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Hi, Do u play any sports? Go Trekking? Physical excercise or Work out? Ride Horses?(The Real Ones)or any other strenerous physical activity? If yes then there is an 80% chance that you lost your virginity doing any of the above.Regarding your ex bf, I dont think that you gave him your virginty, but you sure gave him your body did'nt you? So the new guy did get an intercourse but maybe even he too didnt get your virginity for reasons as stated above. But does all of that matter, No, I don't think so. What matters more is both you and your new boyfirend get a good deal in your relationship:-) in terms of being there for each other in times of need and working together to make this relationship a success. So work on that for now and forget about virginity and stuff. My prayers are with both of you. Have a Blast:-)
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (20 January 2010):
 You were a virgin. There are many things in life a person forgets, but losing your virginity is not one of them. You can rest assured that the moment between you and the new boyfriend can now be etched into your mind as the day you lost your virginity.Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks youfor you comments. Its just worries me bacause emotionally I didn't want to give myself to old BF. I wanted it with new BF.
The thing is old BF did penetrate me anally, i just didn't want him to take my virginity. Made sense at the time, does it still hold true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks youfor you comments. Its just worries me bacause emotionally I didn't want to give myself to old BF. I wanted it with new BF.
The thing is old BF did penetrate me anally, i just didn't want him to take my virginity. Made sense at the time, does it still hold true?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 January 2010):
 I think you lost your virginity to this new guy. So relax and enjoy your blossoming relationship. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): Yes you were because you didn't have actual sex so don't woryr you weren't lying to your current boyfriend when you said that he was your first xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (18 January 2010):
 Im going to say yes you were. Text book defintion and religious view, probably not, but all that matters is what you think. This isn't wierd at all, my gf and I talked about this for all the stuff we have done since we are waiting (not till marriage) to have sex.
The term virginity refers to the heiman bone(a flap of skin) still being together for the first sexual experience. The thing is that it is so easily broken that it happens alot in your early teens from some sort of jolt.
If it comes up let the bf know what you have done in the past and what he has done as well. There is no way I would not say that you lost your virginity to this new bf.
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