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writes:What could be a cause of that I dont care about sex anymore at all? I used to be very horny, and now, I dont even care for porn or any sexual contact with my wife?What could cause such a big change in me? I know,I'm asking, I should know better. But I don't. So I wonder, if someone else has the same issue, and what can the doctor check to find out the cause? Could it be some mental stuff? I really worry, that my wife will break down from this, even so she was very patient so far, but its third year like that, and we don't have sex anymore, as I 'm not interested. viagra wont work, without desire. Any ideas?
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reader, jesussturgis +, writes (1 December 2012):
It is natural with age to have a waning desire for intimacy. This is usually a normal part of aging and has to do with hormonal changes the body undergoes with age. I'd suggest you try a natural a "testosterone supplement. Herbs like fenugreek seed extracts have scientific support and help stimulate the body to produce testosterone . It has worked for me and I'm 52! You need to give it time - after about 6 weeks you'll have more energy and desire.Modnote: links to products being promoted (and a cost is involved) are not included. The Original Poster can certainly search for some things and make their decision.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 April 2012):
 There are many medical reasons for a guy to lose his libido. Just like women's hormone level goes down after menopause, same thing can happen to men.
Go talk to your doctor, maybe have your testosterone level checked and your thyroid. Both things can be helped with medicine/supplements.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Have your doctor check your hormone levels. Talk about any medication you may be taking. How's your nutrition and fitness level? Is your waist larger than it should be? Do you smoke?
Go get a thorough medical work up. First, you rule out any physical causes, then you can work on if it is a 'mental' issue.
There's resources for you here:
http://men.webmd.com/mental-health-male-sexual-problems
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/loss-of-sex-drive/AN01431
Go see your doctor, armed now with some additional information from these sites.
Good luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Well, I'm quite a bit older, but my own abilities and desires subsided a few years ago. Viagra did help when I had the opportunities after a 20 year marriage came to an end, but the cost is outrageous! It still works fairly well, but you're correct - you also must desire.
With my current girlfriend, the desire does remain at times, but our sexual relationship is almost entirely oral. Fortunately, both she and I willingly perform what is necessary. Sometimes, it also requires doing it even if not all that interested - for the other person's relief.
I think that most men, if we survive long enough, progress to a state when sexual prowess diminishes. Our radio and TV ads are replete with advertisements for Viagra, Cialis and other so-called cures. It's a passage in life, I suppose. All that many of us have is memories.
So, I can relate. Our lives don't remain the same. But if a man still has a wife or girlfriend needing and wanting attention, I think it requires us to do what we can. In my case, I'm pretty good with both my hands and tongue. Oral sex is not for everyone, but if it's all one can do, then it may be wise to do it - just to get the job done.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Hi
Go to the doctor, its been 3 years and you need a professional to look at you.He is the only one who can sort out this problem and get to the root of it
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2012): Are you on anti depressants? That could cause a loss of libido.
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