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anonymous
writes:Hi, im a 21-year old african-american female, i have been dating this guy whom i met online since july, and we have been talking ever since, we spoke online via text for about 2 1/2 months before we actually met each other. When we finally did meet, i was amazed at his personality, he acted like he had knew me already for ages, he showed alot of affection holding my hand,kissing my forehead and etc.My only issue is that i call him on the phone sometimes, and he never answers,i know that he has a busy schedule and he has alot going on his his life, although he mentioned he doesn't like talking on the phone for long, he prefers to text me, but i havent stressed it really due to that fact that texting is modern now. Another issue is that, he broke up with ex last year sometime who cheated on him, and from what i understand from him, he's afraid of having strong feelings towards me,he has a few insecurities going on. Im not to sure if i should consider him emotionally distraught, because i know one day im going to want things to be serious, but im afraid that he might not want that beacuse he's too scared of his past. He has already told me that he's slowly embracing it, and im willing to wait, but not forever.I just wanted to know is he worth my time?, even though things seem to be going fine, but i dont want to suffer for someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2011): Be careful. He could be in a relationship or you may be one of many other women. This sounds a lot like guys I dated that I met online. They were very charismatic and getting me to let my guard down. Make sure you guard your heart.
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reader, wickedwizard07 +, writes (14 December 2011):
If I were in your shoes, I would sit him down next time y'all do see each other and explain to him that he shouldn't hold back on you simply because he is scared of being hurt again. Assure him that you are not his ex, and that you would never have the intentions of hurting him like that. Furthermore, I'd explain up front that if things went well you would one day like to take things to a more committed level. If his feelings for you are the same as yours, he will understand. He is a guy however, and sometimes we require time for those kind of conversations to sink in before we give an answer. So watch his reactions and body language as you talk to him. You'll be able to tell how he feels and what he thinks by the way he reacts while you speak.. Smiles are always a good thing. Good luck and hope I helped!
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