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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. It's the usual story, relationship started off wonderful and then gradually it's began to become unbearable. I have had a long think about what to do and have decided it's time to end it. My problem is that he loves me to bits and I've been holding back because I just don't want to hurt him. I know this is a stupid thing to say because of course it will hurt him. He's really stubborn and childish and I have this horrible feeling he will say something awful to me and force me to stay with him. I just have no idea what to say, where to say it, what to expect. Plus I feel guilty for doing this to him. I would really appreciate some tips as this is making me really, really miserable and I just want it to end. Thanks for reading xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Jason means Healer  +, writes (23 March 2009):
Well, the art of hinting is alot better than too great a smack in the face.
Start by reducing your exposure to him by that other most famous of arts; avoidance.
Then let him down gently by giving him an opinion that "things are not working out" and you "really don't know how you feel about anything!"
Then, after he's had a good opportunity to consider the future without you, tell him that you need "some time alone to think."
Note to others: not all people who need time alone to think have any ulterior motives whatsoever...
Make that time indefinite and if he starts pestering you, he'll practically set himself up for rejection.
Trust me, I know; I am a bloke!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (23 March 2009):
 This link should help you do it. "How to break up with someone using style and sensitivity."
http://www.wikihow.com/Break-Up-with-Someone-Using-Style-and-Sensitivity
~Eve~
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 There will never be the perfect place, the perfect time and the perfect way to say it ... all you can do, is just do it. It will hurt him, and maybe he will say some bad things to you and maybe he wont ... if you really feel unhappy in this relationship. end it now .. don't go on forever ... he will get over it ... I got dumped by my exfiance because I wasn't good enough for his father ! ... All he did, was lie about that situation and come up with some bullcrap .. so when I finaly thought I got over the fact he left me cause he wanted some time alone .. i found out, it wasnt true ... etc and i was hurting again ... just dont lie to him.. tell him the truth.. it will all be ok good luck
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