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writes:I'm a girl, 15. my best friend is a guy, 19. We've been friends since Jan. '10. He is seriously like a brother to me. i can never ever imagine him anything more then that. and he can't either. He wouldn't do absolutely anything for me. For a while it was just me and him having fun, doing things together. But since i'm 15 my mom won't let me go or do certain things that 19 year olds can do. and i understand that. Well, there's this girl(junior) who recently started hanging out with him, while i'm not with him. and she starts to be friends with me. 2 weeks before school got out(seniors are at school anymore) she has lunch with me. And she tells me that she would never get in between me and "Nathans" relationship. And i was like aww that's so sweet! thanks! Well about a week after school get's out. Nathan tells me that "Amanda" told him that she like him. and i ask well do you like her back? and he said "yea..." I have mixed emotions. Ever since they've been going out, i feel like his #2. and it really kills me. Does he love her more them me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): There is a huge difference between loving someone more and loving someone differently. It seems to me that your age difference might have something to do with this. He's trying to move along and start a relationship and you are like his little sister who he cares about, but might not be able to make time for.
Really, the best thing to do is just hang in there and keep the friendship alive as much as you can without pushing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): You are NOT his girlfriend so why are you worried about the new girl? Stay in your place and be the friend that you have been and don't try to come between him and who he is dating. If he wanted to date you, he would have asked you by now. You are suppose to be number 2 to him....you are not his woman. How would you feel if you were in a relationship with a guy and he made one of his female friends number 1? You would be pissed the hell off.... I think the girl was being too nice to you because, if it were me, I would have never told you that I wouldn't get between you and him...lol...lol. If anything I would act and behave like the girlfriend that I am and I would expect him to do the same thing.
You like this guy, that is why you are so concerned about this other woman "coming" between the two of you. You guys are not more than friends and that is the way it should be. Mind your own business, stay in your lane and find a life outside of this "relationship" you have with a guy you call a friend. Stop being a busy body and focus on school and getting into college. And always remember, you will be number 2 as long as she or any other woman is his girlfriend and rightfully so. CHOW.
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