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writes:I heartlessly dumped a guy 5 years ago, for selfish and shallow reasons, realising almost straight away that it was a huge mistake but not being in the position to do anything about it. Anyways, he recently broke up with the girl he started seeing straight after me (and awful as it sounds, this is a girl he cheated on with me a couple of times since we broke up). I havn't spoken to him in ages, and he doesn't know that I still have really strong feelings for him. So I was pretty shocked when I got a message from him, which was pretty flirty. I'm going absolutely out of my head trying to suss out what's going on here, and to make matters worse my current relationship with my live in partner is totally meh, blah, whatever.So, should I ignore this guy? Dump my boyf? Do nothing? Mave a move? What? I actually feel like a bit of a pathetic girl over this!
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 I think it could be fate that your old b/f suddenly sent you a message out of the clear blue sky and you are already feeling restless and bored with your current beau. Go slowly, but be honest with him. Find out what he's doing and let him know that you still care for him. If it turns out that you both want to try the relationship again, then by all means, break up with your b/f and go for it! Good luck.
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reader, siren1 +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hi if i was you i wouldnt go down that road again its been to long to pick up where you left off, not only that he cheated on you do you really want to be with a man thats cheated on you i dont think so, so tell him not to get in contact anymore he will just end up messing with your feelings so i think you should try your best to forget about him and move on as much as it hurts you to do so its for the best DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE best of luck with it all hope this as helped a bit for you!xx
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 First let's talk about your current guy. If you're thinking about someone else, you clearly aren't into your current relationship. Break up with him and move on, regardless of what happens with this other guy.When you're single, contact the guy you dumped 5 years ago and ask him for coffee. When you're together, apologize for the way that you dumped him (puts you into a position to ask him why he contacted you). Once you know what his thoughts are, you'll be in a position to make a decision about what you want.
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