A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello a lil advice needed. I have broke off loads of contact wiv my affair after it started getting to heavy on my part wantin her to leave her fella. I know she does care stacks for me too but has no balls and i wish the sex had been crap cos we could still poss be friends. Prob is its like best friends that overstepped the line and the sex was just as mind blowing! Now she was round my way and I said if she was passin to come round catch up, prob is she did wiv her o/n bags and we had the best time we have had ever (poss no pressure???). Anyhow the whole week after and she is chasing me like never before and gettin jelous and all sorts if i dont ring text back, give her the attention that shes used to. Thing is im gettin pissed at her makin no decisions and therefore not takin all her calls cos i dont even know when we'll see each other again if at all. Why as she gone suddenly full on? She scared shes loosin me, she knows girls have been in touch but things still aint changed or does she finally know im gettin pissed off and this is spurring her into some decision makin? Wot do ya think? I'm about to cut off contact unless she pulls her finger out.
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reader, little miss helpful  +, writes (19 September 2007):
 you cant wait around for this pearson soundslike shes happy with the way things are even if your not!
if you did get in a relationship whats to say she wouldnt do to you whats shes done to her current partner eg cheat/brake your heart.
i say cut contact and move on find omeone who wants you and only you and who wants the same things. ]
take care.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 Sounds like you are her boytoy, and she likes things just the way they are.
What makes you certain that she would not cheat on you in a relationship, when you were the other guy in this?
Cut all contact, and find someone that is not attached to be with.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (17 September 2007):
She doesn't want to loose you and doesn't want to loose her family either.
I can only guess here but I would have thought she feels she cannot do without her husbands security and cannot do without your virility.
In short she wants her cake and wants to eat it and in pulling away you are taking that partly away from her.
She's got things where she wants them whilst you are available for the odd bit of nookie and she feels she has a safe life with her hubby too.
I take it he does not know of the affair.
I have a feeling if you push her to an ultimatum the husband will win and she will go off on her way looking for the next stud to fill the void that has been left in her life by your absence.
Have fun whilst it lasts or get clear of her, that is the decision you have to make and by what you have said here I think you are ready to get rid of her.
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