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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi... Well right now me and my boyfriend are in a pretty rough state. About 4 months ago i moved to america from persia and he is still there. We were madly in love. the things we went through together was beyond the average girlfriend boyfriend... Im not just a teen ager that trys to make everything about her relationship sound deep. So as you can see its a pretty far distance. About 2 weeks ago we had broken up for about a month. I was the one doing the dummping un fortunatly and i was the one that went back . I mean he did run after me but i felt like the distance was to much for me to handel. After the month i really couldnt take it anymore. I was going crazy living without him in my life was unbearable. After getting back he was happy for about, 2 days... Then the coldness started. Aparantly he had gotten another girlfriend in that month that we were apart. he said it was for forgetting me and i can understand that even though it doesnt sound right on so many levels. After we got back we had a fight about how he could have just gotten another girlfriend and he eventually cut all contact with her... He said they didnt even kiss so i trust him there but since then i feel like hes cold. We have had alot of talks about this and he keeps on reassuring me that he still loves me but why dont i feel it? I can see him not putting the effort he did before. Its like now he knows im always there and he doesnt need to " put effort " its hard seeing these things cause when i was in persia we had a magical relationship. We would fight like anyother couple but when we were together it was amazing. Is it so crazy that i want to work it out? And keep it going with all this distance. He barly comes online to talk and never calls me. I feel like its just me thats scared to lose the relationship. Please tell me what to do. This problem has been keeping me up at night and constantly interrupting my thoughts...Even when re reading this i feel like I've become the desperate one. But its just when i talk to him on the phone i feel the sad ness in his voice. Is it just me fooling myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): with all due respect i belive serpico is wrong, i've seen here some succesful stories ldr of 2 years or more being away, and i so very confused is right, i would be distant too y you had braken up and then take me back
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 December 2012):
 when is the chance of him coming to be with you or you going home to be with him?
without an end in sight to the distance what's the point of the relationship?
I can see why he's distant... he doesn't want you to change your mind yet again...
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reader, Serpico +, writes (4 December 2012):
In general, LDR last for 6-12 months, at which point it becomes a non-LDR, or a non-relationship.....
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