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writes:I'm a single mom of a 1 year old daughter, her dad left me for another girl when she was 2 mo. About 6 mo. ago I met a great guy who I felt was perfect for me, he seemed to reciprocate my feelings. He's supported me emotionally thru everything. Dealing with my kids father, dealin with losin my job, dealin with my parents (we are of diff races and my parents dont like it) hes always there- EXCEPT every weekend! He goes out to the clubs every Thurs. Fri. and Sat! Even on the weekends my daughter is with her dad he goes- and doesnt invite me! He is the perfect boyfriend Sun-Wed but I cant stand the weekends! I'm sitting at home wondering when he's comin. We fight before he goes everytime, but he still goes. Then there's suspicious behaviour like txting ppl all hrs of the night, and not answering my calls or txts but he always seems to have the perfect excuse. What do I do? I mean he's wonderful with my daughter, I love him and he's perfect during the week. I dont really think he's cheating, but something is up! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for replying guys :) i havent talked to him about it much but I did take manyas advice about hanging out with my girlfriends and such. I had fun cause I havent done that in a while, he was mad when I came home later then he did though. We got into a little fight about it, but there wasnt much he could say- then Saturday night he didnt go out instead we hung out together and went to the movies! So I guess he didnt like getting a taste of his own medicine- thanks again!
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reader, Manya +, writes (26 June 2009):
I agree with Samii that you should talk about this in a better way, calmly letting him know how he's hurting you, not just thrash it out every time he goes out!
But what I want to add, is what about you on these nights?
If your daughter is with her father, then you do not have to be sitting alone all those nights - you should go out with your girlfriends, or even a male friend -- let him get a little jealous!
Sounds like he doesn't want to include you in his club life, which doesn't have to mean anything, but you are young and need a life of your own! Or even get a part time job those nights, just to be a bit independent.
Good luck with all!
Love,
Manya
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