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writes:I've been in a relationship for more than three years. We've had our share of bad moments but we've managed to move on so far. But now that I'm unemployed, I've started to question whether this is the woman I deserve. Near the beginning of our relationship I decided to move into her apartment and pay half the rent, which I have done consistantly ever since. I was recently divorced at that time and my credit was terrible so it seemed like a good idea (although my grandma warned me) even though my name wasn't on the lease. About halfway through our relationship, she lost her teaching job but she was able to find another one within a few months so the rent situation never became an issue. However, during the time she was jobless, I never pressured her about rent or even considered ending our relationship had she been jobless longer. I was completely willing to support her and us. Fast forward. The day I lost my job, less than three hours after I was let go, she asked about the rent situation. There was no remorse from her, or at least I didn't sense any. Instead, she asked about my unemployment benefits and how much I would receive. Now, I pay her rent weekly. I feel betrayed. Now, I really hope to find a job soon, just so I can move out. Problem is I care about her. If things were the other way around I'd never do what she did. Should I move back in with my parents before she evicts me?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Geez, well now moving out won't be that hard. What a bitch, and good riddance. Hope she gets evicted because she can't seem to afford it on her salary alone.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Wow. Guess she gave you her answer. F her. She's a selfish bitch. Get your things together and move out ASAP. You don't need the horrible person in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. You're definitely right,I need to go. Unfortunately, its easier said than done. I know I need to do this but its hard.
Update. She just got on Facebook and set her status as single. I confronted her about it twice. The first time, yesterday, she said she didn't see the other options. Today, at work, she updated it to 'single' again. So, when I saw it I text her and asked why. She text back 'get a job'. Needless to say, I was furious (and hurt), so I called. She said she did it upset I called her at work. Whatever!!!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 November 2010):
How about does she care for you as much as you care for her?
Why do you pay her rent weekly, why not once a month how a landlord would do it? I agree that it's only fair that you pay for a portion of the rent, but in light in recent unfortunate events she should be happy with a little bit of rent. It's better than nothing. Also, it sounds like she really can't afford this apartment on her teaching salary, that's why she needs your contribution.
I would sit her down and tell her this is what you can pay on rent a month, it may be a little less than what you were paying her but it's something. Also, I would remind her that when she lost her job that you didn't hound her for rent..(although the apartment is in her name). See if she'll accept your offer, if not then pack up your stuff and move into your parent's house. You can still keep your relationship, just not living together.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 November 2010):
Maybe, if that will make you feel more comfortable. Really you need to talk to her about this. Tell her how it hurt you. She needs to know. This is the person who you've spent the last 3 years with, if you can't talk to her about this, then maybe that's an indication it's time to move on.
I don't agree with what she did. That's cold, selfish, and doesn't speak well of her at all. Not even a word of consolation or encouragement?!? That says loads to me about her.
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