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Should I listen to my instincts and cut her from my life?

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Question - (14 May 2015) 5 Answers - (Newest, 14 May 2015)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, I am writing again to put this into more depth so you Aunts can help me decide a bit more if I have the problem or does she? I have become really suspicious of my so called 'female' friend.

Last year we used to get on well - until she became close to a guy I was kind of seeing. The two of them pushed me out of their life for a bit, so I fell out with both, because they were obviously isolating me and wanting me out of the way.

A couple of months later, me and this girl put our differences aside and made up again. She pretended nothing was going on with the guy anymore (which I believed) and she said she would get him to speak to me...Well, surprise, surprise, he never did and what's worse - the girl rarely keeps in touch with me now either - but still does with him. However, I have also discovered she has now become close to a couple of my other female friends and has befriended one or two of them and asked them about me in the process which I find quite calculating and underhand.

When we are on Facebook - she comments on my posts as if we still are friendly - but she never keeps in touch or messages me personally. So it seems to be just a front.

We are meant to be all meeting up for a girls night out soon - which we had planned for ages - but the question is - do I carry on pretending we are still friends, when there are obviously issues there or should I follow my instinct and cut her out of my life altogether for peace of mind?

Please can you tell me am I just being jealous and suspicious - or are my instincts correct?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2015):

Thanks Honeypie - OP here. Yes I intend to - once the night out is over & done with!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (14 May 2015):

Honeypie agony auntChange your setting so she can't see your pictures and posts - or simply block/unfriend her.

If you CAN fake through the girl's night out, I'd just block her from checking your page and then unfriend her after.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2015):

Thanks for the answers. I am the OP. I just needed reassurance that I'm not overreacting as she can be perfectly pleasant to my face - but obviously avoids messaging me for whatever reasons!

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A male reader, SensitiveBloke United Kingdom +, writes (14 May 2015):

SensitiveBloke agony auntShe's not acting as a friend should, so you should not seek to keep her as a friend. You can do without people like that in your life.

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (14 May 2015):

Honeygirl agony auntHon, this girl is not a friend. Block her from your FB and have as little contact with her as possible.

Friends don't treat other friends this way.

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