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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi I need some advice. There is this guy that I think about constantly. I met him years ago, I was seeing this guy and he was their best friend. We had a connection and the guy I was seeing noticed and asked if I liked him. Basically they told me to chose (The friend liked me to). Even though I really liked the friend I chickend out and said I wanted to stay with with him. It was hard as we I really liked the friend and I know he liked me but I felt guilty so I said nothing. Many a times I felt like writing a letter or walking in to his bedroom late at night and just telling him how much I liked him. Anyway, me and the guy split after a while and I never heard from either of them again. Thing is I haven't forgotten the friend. What makes it worse is that he is famous (Before the fame I thought about him all the time) and therfore I see his picture or hear/read about him. I have tried to get in contact but he didn't respond and I have recently found out that he is engaged. I don't know what to do. I think (admitly I don't know him very well) that he could be something very speacial. I am in a loving relationship and I adore my partner. It's just that every so offten I get pangs in my soul for him. Please help. Should I just say it's in the past and I missed my chance and try and forget, or should I take a risk although I don't know how. Thanks
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 maybe he is somthing special but he's somebody elses.
you beleive that you are going to speak to him and all of a sudden he'll leave his fiance and run away with you? i think you're livig in a bubble and it'll get burst the second you realise that he's moved on and you're a distant memory. it's not a film where he lies awake thinking about you at night, he was rejected by you years ago and he got over it and is now happy. just because you're thinking you missed out, it's hard luck i'm afraid.
the past is the past. move on and learn from your mistakes.
good luck
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reader, penta +, writes (19 September 2007):
 You missed your chance, move on. Even if you HAD tried it, it might not have worked. Don't trade your loving relationship for 'what if.'
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