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Should I be patient and see what happens or call it a day with him?

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Question - (9 May 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 9 May 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hi everyone,

i have recently started seing this guy, but after about a month, when things hadn't really progressed, i had to ask him what was making him hold back because i felt like he didn't seem to want to get into anything.

but his reply has changed a few things.

He opened up to me and told me that he was a bisexual.

He said that he did really like me, but thought i should know, in case it changed my opinions on things.

He has been involved with other guys, but he's had a history of mainly female relationships.

He told me his previous girlfriend was put off by it, and said he'd understand if i was.

Honestly it does change things a little on the way i look at him, but overall i still want to be with him.

However since then i have remained interested but he still acts reluctant to get too close into a relationship, suggesting the fact that he was keeping a secret from me wasn't the point at all.

People have told me he's sexually confused, which makes me wonder if he is interested in another guy.

Whenever i bring up the fact that we're moving slowly he just reminds me of his sexuality, and explains that it might take some time for our relationship to pregress.

do i be patient and see what happens?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007):

reading ur page took me by supprise at first, thats until i got to the end ov ur problem.ur a pritty open minded person an seem 2 be laid bk about all this. if his sexuality didn't bother u enough 2 end it with him then wots the rush? dont push him 4 an answer because that will scere him off. this guy dosen't seem to be into the relationship as much as u so take a step bk and keep ur options open.u will find out in time but when u do and its not wot u want to hear, will this hurt u? because if he is guy an confids in u later on in life, he will probebly see u as his sister or a mate, he will not hurt like u will. i think u should sit an think about this, do u really want a guy boyfriend?

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