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*onfused33
writes:My bf (let's call him Mike) and I started dating 9 months ago. We met in college (freshmen year) and he "chased me for almost two months until i decided to finally go out with him. He's the star basketball player at our school and is black and because of that A LOT of girls are after him. My resident Supervisor (RS) told me that this girl (let's call her Jessica) was known for sleeping around and that she wants to sleep with all of the black guys at our school. Well i told my bf and he didnt say anything. Next thing I know they are friends, they text and talk through fb. I told him that I dont feel comfortable with this but he doesnt understand why because he hasnt heard any of those things about her. I dont know what to do anymore. Every time I see her post something on his wall or find out that he's texting her I get super jeaous and mad that i start crying. He doesnt understand and wont stop being friends with her because she hasnt made a move on him and he hasnt heard anything bad about her. I have tried to talk to him about this on many occassions but he tells me that we have fought over this many times and that he doesnt want to keep fighting over this.. so he wont even talk about it. am I just over reacting or do I have a right to get mad and jealous?? Should I leave him if he refuses to end his friendship with her??
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reader, Confused33 +, writes (17 August 2011):
Confused33 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's both friendly and flirty but mostly friendly
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (16 August 2011):
 Never worry about the school slut.
Be focused. Is your bf the type that can be seduced by such a gal? Then he is not a prize. It is HIS integrity you want to care about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): Is the nature of the contact friendly o flirty? If it is just friendly then don't get too stressed :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): Question is, is your spouse or boyfriend involved with people who are not friends to the relationship?
If you have a significant other who engages in relationships with those who hurt or do not value your relationship with each other, then they or demonstrating that they themselves don't value the relationship either.
His interactions with her undermine your peace of mind and security in your relationship. He knows that, but persists in the relationship/interactions with her.
Don't stay involved with someone who doesn't value your peace of mind and security.
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reader, Confused33 +, writes (16 August 2011):
Confused33 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just found out last night that he's talked with her over the phone a few times this summer :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2011): You shouldn't have told him it seems that he wants to try his luck with her
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