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writes:Im starting to really fall for one of my close friends. Were together all the time, we share the same group of friends and I was never interested in him in this way but a few weeks ago at our friends halloween party he said goodbye to me and when he kissed me on the cheek it was just so sexy and I just wanted more. I know it sounds crazy that I obsessed over a kiss on the cheek maybe its because I was really drunk but whatever the reason was it just made me look at him differently. Since then I cant stop thinking of him, at first I thought it was maybe just a lust thing. Yes sex is defiantly on my mind when I think of him but thats just half of it, I really noticed how much of a sweetheart he is and I love that we have so much in common well we are friends after all, he's a Sagittarius just like me, and everytime we hangout the feelings just get stronger. Sometimes I get a feeling that hes a little interested but he never said or did anything that encourging. I just dont know what to do to show him that I am really interested and maybe take things to the next level without making the friendship awkward. Does anyone have any advice?
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reader, like I see it +, writes (29 November 2013):
 That's a tough spot to be in. If you show your interest too strongly, it will make continuing the friendship very awkward if he doesn't happen to share your feelings. On the other hand, waiting for him to explicitly show interest may not be the greatest answer either... if he has feelings for you but values the friendship as much as you do, he may have many of the same concerns about potentially ruining the friendship. So if you're waiting on an obvious sign from him, you might be waiting a while.
Ultimately I think you're going to have to decide which would bother you more--never telling him how you feel and forever wondering what might have been, or confessing your feelings, thereby taking the chance that he doesn't return them and will feel weird staying friends with you afterwards. If your feelings for him run deeper than physical attraction, it may be worth the risk. If deep down you think it might just be lust, you may be better off leaving it alone and letting the feelings fade.
Good luck and best wishes with this.
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reader, Miss.Cupid +, writes (28 November 2013):
 This is tricky. Because things can either turn out really great, or a great friendship can be ruined. I would just wait it off, maybe flirt a little with him to see if there are any reactions. Good Luck.
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