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writes:i've made a big mistake and now i don't know how to handle it.I was with a lad for about 6months but we kept it casual although he would make the effort to speak to me everyday and we got on so well, but because of a previous bad experience i kept him at arms length and always pretended i was interested in him for one reason. which i wasn't, i was just scared.a few weeks ago he told me he had started to see somebody else and asked me how i felt about it, i think he was giving me one last chance to tell him how i felt. once again i said i didn't care and he could see who he liked. i know this is a huge mistake and iv'e never regret anything as much in my life!i text him a few weeks later telling him that i did like him and that i didn't expect him to finish his girlfriend or anything, he told me that i'd left it too late.i don't know what to do next or if there is anything i can do next except wait and see if they don't work out?
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reader, PuffinMuffin +, writes (30 August 2016):
Let it go and put it behind you, and don't waste too much time blaming yourself. After all there's not much point saying you're sure when you're not.
Men are like buses: there's always another one coming...
Don't panic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Nothing, as he said you're too late, you shouldhave toldhim.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): You can take this experience forward into any future relationship. It pays to be totally honest right from the word go and hopefully you've now learned that.
Even if it doesn't work out between him and the new girlfriend there's no guarantee he'd want to get back with you, so don't hold your hopes too high of that happening. All you can do is let him know that at the moment he's welcome back, but I wouldn't put my life on hold in the hope that he'll take you up on it.
I don't know what your bad experience was - if I did I might have been able to be more help. Best of luck though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Sounds to me like it's over. He seems a pretty straight forward guy - if he says it's too late, then it probably is. Take this as a lesson for next time!
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