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26-29,
*helsieSue
writes:i'm on the pill, and i never mess up. so is having sex with out a condom safe? neither of us have an STD or and STI or anything. so how big is the chance of his pre cum getting me pregnant?
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reader, It's all be okay  +, writes (27 April 2010):
For the guy who says that using a condom is more protective against pregnancy than the pill, I don't agree.
There are things that can go wrong with a condom, that are very unlikely to go wrong with the pill.
Also, it is much easier, and if these two are sure that there has been no one else, it is also much more enjoyable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): You get pregnant when sperm fertilises one of your eggs. There is a little sperm in pre-come and a lot of sperm in come.
The pill works by suppressing ovulation. Ovulation is when an egg leaves your ovaries and makes it way down your fallopian tubes to your womb. Since there is no egg waiting to be fertilised by his sperm, there can be no fertilisation and no pregnancy.
It doesn't matter at what stage of sexual intercourse the sperm is introduced to your womb -- pre-come or come -- as there is no egg. So his pre-come cannot get you pregnant.
This isn't to say that sex without a condom is safe. Your bf may have Hepatitis or HIV from injecting drug use. He may not be truthful with you about having no past sexual partners, he may have not been tested for STIs but may just be assuming he is clean. You just need to read this website to see that seemingly nice boys will lie terribly to get into your knickers. You don't want your experience of sex ruined by fearful thoughts afterwards of a painful illness or of a young death, so use a condom and lube for your own peace of mind. Do read the packet, as condoms break very easily if not put on correctly.
[Can I say at this point how shocked I am by this question? Surely sex education in US schools is better than this question implies?]
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (27 April 2010):
 You should be safe from pregnancy (about 99%). But unless you both have been tested for STDs, (tested not because he says so) you are 100% at risk for STDs.
I am glad you are being responsible. But to be 100% safe, make him use a condom.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): First, the only safe sex is no sex.
But leaving my religion beliefs out of it, useing a condom is better than a pill in my opinion.
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (26 April 2010):
Well done for being responsible towards birth control and going on the pill.
It should be at least 99% effective without a condom. Make sure you always have your period and take a pregnancy test if it does not come, so you have plenty of time to consider an abortion if necessary.
However, you are very young and I assume your boyfriend is too, so you have to trust him 100% that he will not have a fling elsewhere without telling you, where he could catch a disease.
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