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writes:Do many young girls flirt (and more) with older men? My wife's younger sister has openly flirted with me many times and touches me and last summer she "accidently" walked into the bathroom wearing just her panties. Ever since I married her sister she has been coming on to me. Is it because she knows she is safe with me? or what? She's always smiling or laughing even when I saw her practically nude. Why does she flirt with me whenever the opportunity arrives? How many young girls do this?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Tell her to cut it out or you will tell your wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2011): Do you like it or do you find in inappropriate? Wondering?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2011):
Is she from a culture where being nude (topless, especially) is no big deal? I am American, but my parents are both European. When I was 19 my girl cousin (about 30 then) came to visit. She would try on different swimsuits in the same room I was in (along with my mom and her mom). No one thought anything of it, but it made me very uncomfortable.
If she is not from such a culture, then be wary. Other than accidentally stumbling into you, how else is she flirting? Is it possible you are reading too much into it?
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 ok lets get some things clear here... when you mention young girls are you talking someone in their teens, 20's 30's 40's or 50's?
To me a young girl is someone under 20.
I'm curious as to why you would use that phrase. Is there a very large age gap between your wife and her siblings, or is there a large age gap between you and your wife? (or indeed are both true?).
Also... how long have you been married?
Is her behaviour something recent or has she always been like this?
To be honest I think she is teasing you... almost testing you to see how good for her sister you are. This would obviously only be correct if her behaviour is recent and your recently married.
If i was in your shoes, I would loudly exit whatever room she is in, and give her a filthy look. I would also speak to your wife about how uncomfortable this makes you feel.
Some families have no problems with nudity, and getting changed in-front of a family member is not an issue... however if its making you uncomfortable then there are some simple things you can do to rectify this.
LOCK the bathroom and bedroom door whenever your in those rooms. If she enters a room when your alone, then leave the room.
Hope this helps x
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 I agree with Danielpew.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 December 2011):
 I think the poster should NOT talk to the sister. If he is interested in finishing this, he should make some "noises" the next time the sister in law does something inappropriate. By "noises" I mean doing something that will definitely send the message that it is inappropriate and that the behavior will become public domain if it happens again. What that can be, I don't know.
I believe that, should the poster talk to the sister in law about it, she would deny it. It would be a "she says, he says" situation, and in those circumstances people tend not to believe the male.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (19 December 2011):
 I think in many cases a person can be comfortable or feel close enough around someone whom their relative is married or in a relationship with- to the point where they may joke, flirt, or make fun of. BUT.... what your wife's sister is doing is definitely crossing the line.
I believe she's definitely showing the classic signs of the "forbidden-fruit syndrome"- basically wanting what you should not have. To some people, someone may seem more attractive to an individual if they're already taken. And they may enjoy the excitement of the chase. Or if they're successful at luring a person- the secrecy of the situation.
Or it's possible she genuinely feels some sort of an attraction towards you. With that being said, I don't believe she accidently walked into the bathroom in just her panties. In most situations, I can understand how that could happen with people especially if you share a house... or you're visiting someone else's. But I think she had every intent on seducing you.
I think you should talk to her about this. And let her know that you love her sister (your wife), and you're not going to jeopardize the marriage. And if things doesn't change, I believe you should definitely talk with your wife about it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 December 2011):
 She might feel "safe" around you, you might be teasing the crap out of you, because a. she is jealous of her sister or b. because she can.
If you find it inappropriate you ought to speak up.
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