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writes: I met this man on Instagram 8 months ago, we both loved music and that's how our conversation started. He's from Australia and I'm from the US. Everything was great, however he started to confess his love for me WAY TOO EARLY. I found it weird. Anyways, we exchanged numbers, we started video chatting for hours, but i had no intentions to online date him. He asked me to be his girlfriend 2 months later. I explained to him that i won't take this friendship any further and never will be a relationship since i don't believe in online dating. He would continue to flirt, tell me how much he loves and all these charming things guys say. I didn't believe any of that and i started to find it creepy. That's how i started to get annoyed, i blew up on him, and he told me that he will not flirt again. During these months, he would tell me: I can't continue talking to you, and when i do take it seriously and not talk, he would text me: I'm just joking,don't take things literally! I got sick of this, since i woke up one day to a message from him saying he doesn't want to receive any messages from me again. I left him for a few days without saying anything, and i texted him that he was being creepy when he flirts with me knowing that i don't like it. He apologized to me and said he's sorry and he won't do it again.Was a stupid move from me, i gave him another chance, however he noticed that my behavior isn't as before, and acted as nothing happened. He said to me on the phone: If you didn't text me (the message explaining how i found his behavior creepy when he flirts), i wouldn't have texted you) he wouldnt even know what he did wrong, i explained however he said he didnt see anything wrong in it. i got angry of this and i blocked him everywhere. He didn't say anything for 2 weeks, until he made another Instagram account and direct messaged me apologizing. He begged me for a whole day, and another stupid decision of me, i gave him another chance. We talked on the phone the next day, and i literally felt that i made a stupid decision, the conversation was dry, boring and meaningless. When we finished the call, i sent him a text saying : i don't feel that i can continue talking to you, i think we have outgrown each other, you decided at first that you didn't want to talk, you started all of this. I wish you the best in your life. And then i blocked him this time again.Again, after 2 weeks, he made another Instagram and texted me saying sorry and that he missed me. I blocked him. He was making a new Instagram and sending me an apology everytime i blocked him. He literally made 7 accounts to get me back, i felt sorry for him, but i blocked him anyways. Until he made the last account saying: i wont bother you anymore, just want to say goodbye and best of luck. and i blocked him again without me saying anything. was i too harsh on him? I feel a little guilty for being harsh. Did i do the right thing or should have i gave him a chance?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (10 August 2018):
 Isn't there a way to report him? It's harassment at this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2018): Ok.another chance of what? You are in the US. He is in Australia. Lets leave the drama behind OP.
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reader, N91  +, writes (9 August 2018):
 This isn’t a friendship.
The guy is a creep, you told him no multiple times but he kept persisting. Blocking him was the right thing to do, forget about him.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (9 August 2018):
 Because giving him as many chances as you did was not enough? Because he is going to change his behaviour? Because you are going to get to like his creepy flirting? Because what?
Your relationship reminds me of the dog that chases cars. What are you going to when you catch it, doggie? You chase your friend when he doesn't contact you. Then when he contacts you you blow him off. Then he chases you and you keep blocking him. Then when he finally accepts the relationship is over, you start having second thoughts. What do you think will change if you give him YET ANOTHER chance? I will tell you: NOTHING. Nothing will change.
And for the record, I don't believe he WILL leave you alone, regardless of what he has said. You BOTH seem to say things you don't really mean. That's called playing games and games are for kids.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 August 2018):
 No just keep blocking him.
He is only saying "I'm sorry" to appease you and talk to you some more, he obviously doesn't respect you at all or he would have quit with the flirting when you told him enough.
I would also suggest that you stop blowing hot and cold. Take a little look at your own behavior as well.
Learn to set boundaries and don't give people you REALLY don't know (sure you have talked over text and Instagram but that doesn't mean you know him from Adam...) so many chances to behave towards you in a manner you don't want.
So just block him and move on.
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