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*onelyxguy
writes:I am a 19 year old virgin guy and I have a great girlfriend though she isn't a virgin oh well. One thing i am haveing a problem with is that she teases me and then when we are about to have sex we stop and she says sorry to me. We were about to have sex one night when she told me she wasen't ready. My horomones and stuff are starting to get in my way now i dunno what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 If she is tense she will be tight, maybe if you both just have an eveing of just being yourself relax, and let it happen without the background motive of are we are we not ....there is so much more to making love than just the obvious, kissing, touching, carressing, massage are all great ways of relaxing and getting to the point of lushness :) if you can do this several times within a week WITHOUT actually having sex, by the time the weeks up you will both be so aroused and ready there will be no looking back :D
Blessings Mandy x
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reader, Vanessa_Twinkle +, writes (27 August 2011):
Well then that explains it,and that can be the truth..she´s scared of it hurting and thats normal.. you just have to help her beat that fear
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reader, Lonelyxguy +, writes (27 August 2011):
Lonelyxguy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well we talked and about it and I have a bigger problem. I did what the girls said though i wonder if i should of went with the guys because i am a guy. Anyway we talked and i learned that she is to tight. now even with lube and stuff she does not want to have sex with me
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): I think you are letting her make a sucker out of you.
She won't do it with you, she even TEASES you about it, even though she has already screwed other guys before? (And I bet she swears they weren't special to her compared you, am I right?)
Man, stop letting her play this game with you. Tell her if she wants to keep you then she will at least do stuff with you that she does with other guys.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Not to worry my young friend...you are being conditioned for marriage just learn from this young lady as you will find zen-like peace in your married years later as you'll get no sex then either.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Well she said she isnt ready so basically she isnt ready to have sex with you yet, maybe you could talk to her and just pleasure eachother in different ways by starting off slowly. Build up her confidence and let her come around naturally and when she is ready i'm sure you will both have great sex. One thing not to do in this case, do not under any circumstances pressure her to have sex with you as you must be paitent with girls as they take alot longer than boys to feel confident enough to have sex, I think the best solution is to just talk with her.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Sounds like she enjoys making out with you and being sexual with you but isn't ready for sex. Why don't you talk about it?
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reader, Iykeiscool  +, writes (19 August 2011):
Dude, I just think she's using you to exercise her sexual power. I suggest you look somewere else for what you want.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (19 August 2011):
HI
some women may find it hard knowing se will be your first, because as we all now your first you never forget. Maybe she is worried too, that maybe she dont do it for you and your first expeirence could be a let down. Try not to even think about sex right now, just hang out do what ever it is you both normally do when together and it will happen when its supossed to happen.
xx
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Maybe she doesn't know what it is doing to you. She enjoys the physical aspects of foreplay but foreplay for her doesn't always lead to sex. She has only done this to you twice, right? Before you get close to her ask her what she wants to do. Be specific, ask do you just want to touch, or do you want oral or actual sex. Then you can decide whether you want to go ahead with it.
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reader, Vanessa_Twinkle +, writes (19 August 2011):
I think she´s giving you mixed signs,you should talk to her about it especially if she isnt a virgin, if she was it´d be understandable,tell her how you feel there must be something stopping her from going forward with it. Good luck :)
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