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writes:Ever since i was a young lass my family has moved around a lot. Therefore I don't have any lifelong friendships with anyone outside my family. I'm 24 now and have been settled in the same city for the last 7 years. I made what I thought were going to be those lifelong friends about 6 years ago and due to the normal changes in life that people go through they've fizzled. I feel sad that I have trouble holding onto relationships and have made a conscious effort to keep them going but they just aren't working out. Is there something wrong with me? I'm not a crazy, or a bitch, or a liar, or a backstabber or anything else that would call for dropping. Is it normal to not have so many friends?
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (25 April 2011):
 There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I've moved around my entire life as well, and I've lost many friendships, but I've also managed to keep some long-distance ones. On a completely different note, my fiance lived on one small island his entire life, and was friends with a lot of the same people all throughout middle school and highschool, and now hardly speaks to any of them because they're all living their own lives and doing their own thing. It's this age (21-25) that people are starting to figure things out for themselves, settle down in relationships, look into stable careers and living situations, etc. Most people are so wrapped up in getting their own lives figured out without wanting to bother with anyone else's. Don't feel bad. You'll find good friends once you're all on the same page about where you want to be. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): Yes. My boyfriend moved all over the place and he only has a couple of lifelong friends. It happens when your all over the place.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 I have moved 14 times and been to 17 different schools. At school and as an adult I have found it impossible to bond with any friends because I always felt or knew i was going to move again or there was little point because things would change. I did find though when I started work and could control my own destiny that things improved. You can tell how much the whole moving thing f*cked me up because since leaving university i have not moved from the same house in nearly twenty years and my child has gone to the same school throughout his entire education. I have no school friends at all that I keep in contact with but lots of friends that I have made at work and this will happen to you too. It was not our choice to move so we cannot class this as normal or abnormal but it will honestly change when you get older. Once away from the family and you live on your own you will be able to bond with people and build a stable secure happy environment.
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