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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now and from day one his (now 5 year old) son has lived with us. I really like his son, he is a good kid and pretty well behaved, but often I am overwhelmed with jealousy and I want the weekends to come quicker so i can pack this kid off to his mums!! He doesn't really do anything wrong as such, I just resent him because he rules our lives, he decides what he eats, what he wears, we can't go anywhere spontaneously because he has a bedtime and has school the next day, he hardly ever plays he just wants to hang around with us and he follows his dad every where even when he goes to the toilet!! I just find him annoying!! I recently found out I am pregnant and told my boyfriend. He is over the moon, but I am worried that his son is going to shadow my boyfriends love for the new baby because he is so used to being number one. I like kids, I am a teacher, but I just can't get over my jealousy for this kid!! He sees his mum 3 weekends a month by court order. Dad hates his mum and is very clear about that in front of his son, something I dont agree with. His son has picked up on the fact that his dad hates his mum and now manipulates the situation buy telling mummy that 'daddy said this about you' or 'dad's girlfriend said this'. I never say anything bad about the mum, so I find this behaviour disturbing and attention seeking and worry about the psychological effect it will have on the kid when he is older. When I have tried to speak to dad about his son's lies and tales, which often get brought up in court and cause alot of trouble as the judge and social services tend to beleive them, he always defends his son and says he never said them, and that mum is making it up!! When the son has actually admitted to me he has said these things to his mum!! Also his son is always telling daddy 'I hate my mummy, she is an evil witch, I won't cuddle her, I am glad I don't live with her', but recently mum wrote a statement for court as she is trying to get residency, in the statement she said that her son always tells her he loves her, wants to live with her, gives her loads of affection, but always tells her 'not to tell dad' and when both parents are together the son shows no interest in mum, but when he is alone with her away from dad he shows his love for her confidently. This has even been confirmed by his teacher when mum has picked up her son from school on a friday. I know this kid is too scared to tell his dad he loves his mum because he thinks he will be cross, but when I try to explain this to dad he says it's nonsense and that he doesn't love his mum at all, he hates her, and mum makes it up! He's in denial and being so naive!! I love my boyfriend, but I can't cope with him being so defensive of his son all the time and outing my second, and I'm tired of his son ruling the roost!! My boyfriend is impossible to talk to unless im agreeing with him!!
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