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*ockfaerie
writes:My best friend and me have been through a few rough patches including some really rough ones. we have spent the past year or so patching things up. We have gone through a lot and known each other for years.My partner is now telling me that I HAVE to dump him and never speak to him again. He says he will break up with me otherwise. And I can't do it..What do I do?
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 I'm sorry you're so upset, but I understand completely. I understand the position you are in also.
I still stand by my statement that It is unfair of him to make demands on you!
As Caring Guy pointed out, these are his insecurities, the He needs to deal with!
If my boyfriend had a long time "friend" (which he does) I may feel pangs of jealousy at times, but I know it is just my insecurities popping up, and I let it go. Why? Because I trust him!
I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do!
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reader, Rockfaerie +, writes (17 January 2010):
Rockfaerie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys
I know my question sounded pretty vague as I was really stuck what to put in it.
Brooklyngirl - Yes he is although it was a teenage romance years ago. I'm really confused as the fact that as he is an ex, then my boyfriend should have a say in whether I contact him or not.
I have done loads of talking with my boyfriend on this and he wants him out of my life because of how he treated me years ago (he has improved a LOT since) shortly after we broke up, and insists its not due to the fact he is an ex. There is nothing going on or feelings in either side.
Thanks for the feedback, its helpful as I'm quite upset right now.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 January 2010):
Dump your boyfriend. This is about his won insecurity, not you. If he can't trust you, then he's not worth youue time.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Dump the boyfriend, he has no right to ask you that!
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (17 January 2010):
Is this friend an "ex?" Did you have a relationship with him? I know for me, if someone told me I HAD to do something, I would reevaluate the relationship! It is unfair for him to make demands on you.
Weigh the two relationships and decide which means most to you. But also know that this may be just the first of many demands your boyfriend will make!
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