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*weetpie-x
writes:Recently i have been waking up to my boyfriend masturbating beside me in bed, he obviously thinks im asleep, and if i move he quickly stops and waits, checks to see if im still sleeping then carries on, and at the end im not sure if he is completely finished but sometimes i think he doesnt go to the bathroom to clean up he just rubs it in anything thats near! im getting more frustrated with this than anything, and i have said something to him and he promises he has stopped but im not quite sure, because im still being woken up by him masturbating, and he watches porn at the same time, it just annoys me the fact that we hardly ever have sex anymore, but this masturbating with me sleeping next to him has become more frequent, we dont live together so its only when he stays over, we have been together over 2 years and im just not sure how to get him to stop and take out his sexual frustration with me, as i am getting frustrated that we no longer have sex!!! also when i go round to his there is always a bottle of baby lotion on the side, i asked him what it was for and he just brushed it off but now he has addmitted its for masturbation.. this is becoming a joke now!! Please help
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reader, Donald Osuagwu  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 Since he dosn't have sex with you anymore all you have to do is break up
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reader, sweetpie-x +, writes (31 March 2011):
sweetpie-x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is tho, i have mentioned it to him in a nice way, and its not like i dont iniciate sex myself! but when i do he brushes me off, and sometimes that makes me feel like crap!! the fact that m own boyfriend can be like that, and its not like we are young, he is 23 and im 18, i just dont know who to get him to be more attentive to me and not wait till im asleep to satisfy himself, its not like we stay at each others houses every night, but pretty much every weekend, so its like he has 5 whole days to do it so why wait till im there, and also why when im there doesnt he just have sex with me instead of jacking off!! i dont undertsnad him, it has seemed to have subsided a bit, but im still so concious about it! Thank you everyone for your comments as well really appreciated
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reader, svf  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 He's behaving like a selfish pig. He would rather wank than have sex with you? He's a WANKER and you deserve better. Someone who lies, as in waiting for you to be asleep and then stopping when you move, how sneaky is that? Sounds like a moron. It's ok for him to satisfy himself but not you??? As you said, it's not like you live together, so he can put in more time and effort when he's staying at your place. You deserve a guy with a decent libido who's upfront about it.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 I agree with strontiumdog. Talk to him about it but don't be judgmental. I know it hurts to feel your boyfriend would rather masturbate than have sex with you, but that may not be the case...well, sort of in a way. Sometimes [people] just want to be selfish and take care of their needs without having to worry about the [other's] needs. It may not seem like it, but men get self conscious too and one of the reasons is because of sex. They want to make sure they are hard for us women, give us pleasure, and don't get off too soon. It can be stressful. If it bothers you to have him masturbate right next to you in bed, say so, but don't tell him to stop doing it. Like strontiumdog said, he will just be more careful about hiding it from you. Good luck.
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reader, Ngyzee +, writes (29 March 2011):
hi dear, this is really sad, its annoying and irritating. Its obvious he doesn't enjoy making love to u anymore and prefers masturbating. It all depends on what u want. Its not wise to to hang in there, talk to him extensively about it, if it continues, give him a break for good. Its not nice at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): Maybe this is naive but, why don't you just take the initiative to have sex with him?
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