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writes: My boyfriend n I have been datin for past a year now. I has showed great interest in settlin down wt me bt recently I fofound out he jst sees his ex galfriend and before I know wwhat is happpenin, she is already pregnant. We leave vry far from each other n he has been a source of my happiness. I do love him a lot n I dot wnt 2 lose him n he is my first.he is beggin me n stil show every interest in d marrage. Pls advice me am losin my mind.
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reader, deirdre +, writes (6 August 2016):
Move on and forget about him. It is very difficult but you will save yourself the pain long term. What he did is unforgiveable, imagine if your sister or friend was in this situation. What would you advise them? You cant trust him, he has shown you what he is really like. I dont believe she is his ex, he just thought he could play games with both of you at the same time. You deserve better!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 August 2016):
Let him go. He now has OTHER obligations to fill, namely being a father. But instead he is trying to "run away" from his responsibility by chasing after you.
If he could sleep with her while "wooing" you... He will cheat again when the opportunity strikes and you could be in the same unfortunate situation as his "ex" (whom I don't really think is his ex).
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 August 2016):
This charmer is nothing but bad luck - for YOU!!! Cut your losses and get away from him now.
Would you want - for a hubby or S/O - some wretch who would impregnate an "ex-" then go running to some other woman (you - in this case) claiming his love for her?????
Good luck.....
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reader, Garbo +, writes (1 August 2016):
Let this guy go. He is a cheater and does not know what he wants. Had he known that he wants marriage, and a kid in it, he would not have cheated on you to have a kid outside of marriage. That is too much irresponsible baggage for a man in his 20s. Drop him, say no, go no contact, and after some time look for a better man.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 August 2016):
Your post is a little hard to understand, but I don't think you should be with him. You've only been with him a year, his ex is pregnant and he's still talking about marriage. You shouldn't even consider it until this mess is under control, which will take another couple of years. He's trying to sweet-talk you into forgiving him. His ex will *always* be in his life, now that there's a baby.
I think you should leave him.
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