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writes:my boyfriend of 9 months always answers his mobile phone, even if we are at friends house or in a restaurant, sometimes its his ex wife, he chats but sometimes its about nothing in particular, I get angry and think its very rude, he thinks I am jealous and he just doesnt want to be bothered calling her back, its causing arguments and he just cant see it from my point even though I understand what he means, but I feel like a spare part and may just not be there! Am I being unreasonable?What are your views please...... J
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (7 November 2010):
From what you're saying, it's hard to tell whether he has bad manners with respect to this or not. Generally you answer your phone whenever it rings. You turn it off or on silent at the movies and places that you can't have phones, but other than that, you answer it.
However, I would say that if you're out with friends or doing something special, it would be polite to keep the call short. As in he can find out what's going on, but let the other party know he's out or busy and then hang up, maybe call them back later.
I think you might be overreacting a bit, because of the fact that sometimes it's his ex wife calling. Why is she calling? Is it something about joint children? Are they still friends? Either way, I think you might want to try compromising on things a bit. Let him know that there are times that should be focussed on the 2 of you. Say on date nights the phone gets turned to silent or off. Or if you're spending time together, if the phone rings, keep it short.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 How's that a problem? I get pissed all the time when people don't answer their mobiles, it's like what's the point of having one if you're not going to answer it.
Anyways, I can see where it can be rude, rather annoying if you're having dinner and it's constantly going off. He can turn it on silent, or step out to take his call if it's of importance. Does he have children with her, maybe that's the reason she's calling? How often does she call? They could very well be friends, and there's harm in that. However, if she's blowing up his phone 24-7 then I can see making a fuss. I would point out he needs to have better manners when it comes to his mobile..Ask him kindly if he could put it on silent when you guys are out with friends or dining, his mobile can wait unless it's an emergency, or work related.
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