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anonymous
writes:I had my first b.f when i was 18. i had waited for the one. he was a complete looser emotionally messed me up, tried forcing me into eveyrthin.was my first kiss honestly broky me heart.after him i had another b.f exactly the same again.I started seeing a guy and now it just i don't know who i am anymore. My fmaily is messed up i always feel lonely i want a guy who wil love me. simple as .now via the net i've got so far 4 guys on the go. im a slag aren't i. honestly u look at me you'd tihnk im innocent, decent i am i think. but then this side of me happens on the sly. it hard 2 explain.I feel guilty yet none of them can giv me want a want.not all of it anyways. im stil a virgin savin that til i get married. just scared that one wil leave me and i'll be alone. or one won't talk much and i'l be alone.please i hate usin poeple. i hurt so much dont want to hurt others, help please
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThansk for all of your replies
I'm not a bad girl im just confused i tihnk. i text them all sayin i love you but not in love with you..
well 1 of them we linked long time ago and i didnt really fancy him so now we are mates and same time flirt but i told him we have no future
2nd one we decided we not until marriage different religon..just for couple of years. he lives local i have been nawty with him.yday like sexual stuf but we linked laods
3rd linkinhim friday but he lied to me alot.abow his pictures but now we had changed. eh wants marriage
4th hes just confused and in a bad time
all of them i do try to be there for them as friends. i guess they do consider em to be their g.f's/ i duno.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 March 2010):
I'd suggest that you stop seeing all these guys. Your need to feel loved is going to lead you to serious unhappiness. You have to be happy and content with yourself before you can find the right guy. As long as you look for a guy just so you aren't lonely, you will end up hurt because you will look for the wrong men all the time. I'm sure you're a nice girl, and you're not a slag. But you are the dream for every man who wants to control and use you, because you're blinded by this need to be loved. Being alone isn't the worst thing in the world. It can be a good thing, as it will be for you right now. The worst thing would be to settle for a man who just uses you. That's what will happen. Right now, you need to focus on yourself and be confident and happy for yourself. Then you will be in the position to find a guy you love, and who loves you.
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reader, Withnail700 +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Don't be so hard on yourself, you're not a slag in any way - how many young women of your age are saving their virginity for marriage? That is a noble thing in today's sexual climate. You're so very young, have fun and enjoy yourself, and who cares if you have four boyfriends, it all sounds pretty innocent enough to me. If you said you were having intercourse with them all I would obviously be alarmed a bit, but you're not and furthermore, you're morality seems very high if anything. One day the right guy will come along and then you'll be fine! Until that happens just enjoy the attention, I would!
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