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Is surgery worth loss of sensitivity?

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Question - (15 November 2011) 10 Answers - (Newest, 17 November 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm not talking about implants! I know most men are against implants but are for other surgeries(reductions, lifts, nipple reductions etc)

From your point of view, do you think better looking breasts are worth the loss of sensitivity?

I personally believe so for me at least. While I love my sensitivity I know ugly sensitive breasts are no better than non sensitive attractive breasts. That's me though.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011):

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I'm not being hostile or trying to sound hostile, I'm just making it known no one will change my opinion.

I was looking for male opinions moreso on the topic of whether they'd believe it's worth it or not, since they are the ones who er, 'mess' with them.

Anyways, if what I've said struck a nerve, I can't do anything about that.

But I've heard varying things about that so confused. Weird. I guess every set of boobs is really different

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2011):

Who defines what better looking breasts are? Is this a size issue? You want smaller perkier breasts and have bigger, fuller breasts?

You are actually being vague so how can anyone give you a proper answer.

And men, on an advice site trying to give you advice, what are they really going to say?

Its up to each individual.

If you are disastified with your breats and are thinking of surgery, its your choice, your decision and shouldn't matter what a man or woman thinks.

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A female reader, Candid Cally United States +, writes (16 November 2011):

I am a bit confused. Your question is about female sensitivity vs breast appearance. Most of the respondents will be females sharing their own personal opinions and experiences with you. Most men will not reply because the majority of them don't know what it is like to have sensitive breasts and whether sensitivity is more important to a woman than appearance.

That being said, just because you have made your decision and we do not share your sentiment towards sensitivity vs appearance...well, it doesn't mean I disagree with you or want to change your mind one bit. The decision you have made to have surgery (and my years of debating with myself before deciding it wasn't worth the risk) is yours and yours alone to make.

My only advice is this: Make sure you have a highly rated surgeon. The good ones cost more than the average surgeons. Make sure you see examples of his/her handiwork on procedures similar to yours BEFORE you sign any paperwork. Have someone who cares about you assist you during your recovery.

I do hope you enjoy the outcome of the procedure. In my humble opinion, it has nothing to do with how men or other women feel about the appearance of your breasts, it is about whether this surgery will finally make you feel good about your breasts.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (16 November 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntmy breasts became MORE sensitve after surgery.

why?

because the doctor explained that we like them better after surgery so we listen to them more.

that's all well and good but I can't stand to have my breasts touched now as they are overly sensitive... it's very frustrating.

the scars pull and pucker and hurt too...

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (16 November 2011):

chigirl agony auntWhy so hostile? No one has been lecturing you.

Have you ever been in a relationship since you say our views are "romantic and delusional"? I've probably been with more men than you, and I've been in 4 relationships with MEN, so I don't think my understanding of this is romantic fluff. I'm only saying what they've taught me. Why on earth would I bother lying to you. Besides you have a male response there and he completely agrees.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2011):

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Let me just start out saying that no one here is going to change my opinion or intentions, so lecture lectures and guilt trips can be saved.

I was looking for male perspectives moreso than females, no offense. Only because I am straight...so I like guys. And I feel girls tend to have this delusional, caught up in love, romantic mentalities going on.

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A male reader, serenity80 United Kingdom +, writes (16 November 2011):

What do you mean by "ugly". ugly to who?

You are assuming they are ugly to men, aren't you.. but you are very wrong there.

Your time would be better spent having more confidence in yourself and your body instead of wishing to change it.

It's not even that you want it to change for yourself, you're doing it because you think you'll be more liked by men.

I can tell you something so read very carefully... men are not looking for "perfect" women from magazines and movies. That is a fact.

Your view of men is an insult to 99% of men out there, who, like you, just want someone who they can love and connect with. Someone who is kind, giving, warm and loving. These are the qualities you should aspire to have as they are the things which attract a decent man who will want to be with you.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (16 November 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt Exactly, that's you. I've got the feeling that most women are either less vain or more selfish . Or both.

Sensitivity is for your sensual pleasure and benefits you , good looking breasts are for other people's visual pleasure and benefit them.

Put yourself first :)

Plus, the other operations you mention leave visible, unsightly scars , so , unless your breasts aren't really very messed up due to trauma ,illness or breastfeeding 10 babies, you are not going to make any real improvement, you are just swapping an imperfection with another. At 18-21... how ugly can your breasts be ??

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (16 November 2011):

chigirl agony auntMen are against implants because they like natural breasts.. so that also counts for any other plastic surgery performed on breasts.

Besides, who can define what is an attractive breast and what isn't? That's up to each and everyone taste. I can easily imagine what one man imagines is the perfect breast is not what the next one would imagine as perfect. Then again, as my ex boyfriend said "personality makes a person beautiful. As long as you are a beautiful person then this is reflected in your body, and makes you beautiful".

When a man loves a woman she is perfect, just as she is, no make-up, no nothing. If you aspire to be a porn star, or stripper, then I suppose you have some more specific "look" to go after. But if your goal is to be happy in a relationship then there is no such thing as an "ugly" breast.

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A female reader, Candid Cally United States +, writes (16 November 2011):

No, I don't share your sentiment.

As much as I would like to have breasts that are proportional to the rest of me (I'm pear-shaped and still fit in the first bras that were purchased for me as a 9 or 10 year old child), I just can't fathom not only losing sensitivity, but having to have further operations in the future (implants don't usually last a lifetime and usually cause complications that need to be repaired)...it just is simply too much trouble to indulge my vanity.

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