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writes:My girlfriend and I went through a recent breakup. We were separated for several months. During this time she dated someone briefly. She denies it but I know she was very attached, if not in love, with this guy. He was involved with someone else yet she repeatedly asked him to leave the other girl to be with her. They were on and off several times and she tried getting back with him on several occasions. They work together and see each other every other weekend. They remain friends and talk on the phone and text each other.Well, she decided she wanted to give our relationship another go. I already know the words of caution that most people will give me about getting back with an ex. I'm going ahead with it anyways.What I want to know is if it is unreasonable for me to ask her to stop communicating with this guy. They've tried the friends thing before but every time they worked together the old feelings stirred back up. I would want her to find another job but I think that would be pushing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): I agree with tb, no you're not being unreasonable, but I doubt she'll stop and if push comes to shove she'll probaly dump you before she ever consider cutting off contact him. She seems to be in love with him and you seem to be her #2! sorry hope it works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Its not unreasonable what you are asking, but what makes you think she will do it? Or that she will stop contacting him? Why does she have to talk to him and text him every day if he's not her boyfriend? You know what I mean? They sound too close,and you are setting yourself up for another heartbreak.
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