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writes:He tells me he loves me. I have been unwell for a week now. He wants sex and i said no to him cause im not feeling well. He get really mad and pissed off with me. Is that love? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): Maybe he needs to ask himself whether he loves you or whether he just wants to have sex with you. Love means a LOT more than just sex, it's about caring and nurturing, laughing togeher, crying together, you know... All that stuff's become a bit of a cliché but it's still true. I'm not suggesting that he doesn't love you, maybe he just loves you lots and lots but can't think of another way to express it other than sex? In which case just tell him what else you need to feel loved, especially when you're ill, and he should respond well. If he's just horny then maybe he wants to grow up a little bit. I'm young and have a high sex drive but if my girlfriend's sick or upset I take waaay more pleasure in comforting her and doing my best to make her feel better than I EVER could through inflicting my frustrations upon her. You aren't being unreasonable, you're being human. If he thinks anyone can do any better than you in the circumstances (assuming you haven't actually been abusive or insulting to him about that area of your relationship) then good luck to him! Good luck to you too, I hope your relationship works terrifically and you get better soon... Just think of how much fun you can have making up for this past week eh? ;) God bless. xxx
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 it doesnt mean it is or is not love, it just means he's being needy and inconsiderate. if ur really not well, then he should respectfully wait and not get mad.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (17 July 2010):
 I'd say that, assuming he's more than 20, he is being pretty immature. He could still love you but do you want to spend your time with a baby?
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (17 July 2010):
 Did you offer him an alternative? Or a rain check? Sure guys can be walking gonads, but they have needs too.
My take on this is that he is not angry, but sexually frustrated. Sex is often inconvenient. It is often hard for us to see things from another's perspective. He is not seeing that you aren't excited because your stomach is doing flip flops. You are not seeing that he is used to sex 3 times a week and you said no after a whole week. He is starting to get pretty uncomfortable with the pressure down there.
Yes he could love you and still do this.
There is more to your relationship that just this past week I am sure.
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