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writes:me and my aquarius man have been together for two mounths now we are happy as ever when around eachother inseparable whenever theres a disagreement between us two we manage to work through it and except eachothers wishes lately i can honestly i can be a brat and i am currently working on it lately hes been stressing out a lot because of issues he has in his life and im always there for him to talk to he dosnt have a job hes been looking and if he needs for something im always there to provide we are happy together and i can tell he likes me a lot the other day he even told me hes faling in love with me im so confused he said he was gonna hang out with me on Monday but he didnt neither did he call or text to tell me he had other planes so the next day witch was Tuesday i text him all day and even called him a couple times he didnt return my calls neither text until that night when he did call i didnt even bring up him not comeing to see me on Mon i jus asked him to come see me that night he told me he couldnt because hes looking for a job and wants to stay focused so i begged him to and he finnaly bussez out and says man im not even in town so i say so you lied to me and he says i didnt want to tell you because you always trip on me yes i do trip when he avoids me and dosnt responed to my calls and text i fill as if im obligated to do so because its irritating and i got fed up with him not being honest with me so i yelled at him and told him what ever then leave me the hell alone then and hung up on him i felt bad so the next day with was yesterday i call and text him telling him how sorry i was and that it wont happen agian and i mean it but he hasnt responded im so hurt and so confused i dont know what to do does this mean its over between us to is he ever gone talk to me agian was i wrong please somebody give me some type of information i need help i need answers Virgo Women Despret
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 I'd have to agree with aunt honesty, you are coming on a little clingy and YES, he should have told you that he was cancelling plans to see you on monday.
As a rule of thumb, if you text him and he doesn't reply, wait a couple of hours... then if you feel the need, text him calmly and ask an arbitrary question- not accusatory. Then the balls in his court. He'll contact you when he's ready. If he makes you wait a day or two til he contacts- make him wait a day or two before you contact him. Yes its a game and highly frowned upon by the moralistic among us, unfortunately- early on in the dating game- it works.
Just don't be afraid to walk away... there's nothing worse than yelling at a guy when he's done something wrong and then ringing the next day and apologizing for HIS wrongdoing. This gives him the impression that you're a pushover... and you're gonna keep getting pushed over if you keep doing this. I guarantee you that.
Also- saying he's falling in love with you and acting like he's falling in love with you- completely different. Don't confuse them.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 It sounds to me like you are very clingy. You have only been together for two months, it is still all new, and texting and calling all the time is going to put him off. He is going to feel like you are clingy and that will hold him back.
However from another point of view, if he made plans with you, then he should have told you he had to rearrange instead of ignoring you, this shows that he doesn't care how he makes you feel. Also even though he feels he needs to lie about being out of town, you where right he should have been honest with you. So he is in the wrong in this department.
Again you shouldn't have been the one writing to him now and apologising, it should have been him, what you should have done is not contact him and let him contact you, but instead you gave in and started apologising and trying to contact him, it just shows him he can walk all over you. You need to be stronger. Hold back more from him. Give him space to breathe, yet if he lies to you then don't contact him, don't let him get away with treating you badly, because that is what you are doing at the moment, you need to stand up for yourself more. Good luck.
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