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Is his behavior about control?

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Question - (7 July 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 25 July 2010)
A female United States age 51-59, *hippy2 writes:

My ex-boyfriend is still a bother - why does he insist on finding out what I am doing and with whom? He is jealous of me going out with a guy we both know. But the ex-boyfriend has been living with another woman for over a year! And he doesnt care that he cheats on her.

He tells me that his cock is best. That this other guy cant be as good as him and on and on. He sends me pictures of himself and video too. He said he would love to meet me for sex -

What do you all make of this? I think its control. He only wants to have the kind of sex he wants with me - He wants the great oral I give. He is not interested in being a couple with me.

Let me add he is 43 and a drug addict - rx pain pills.

I do miss the good stuff but am angry that he thinks he should have any concern with what I do with myself now that he and I are not together. Let me add we were together 4 yrs.

Advice opinions?

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (25 July 2010):

Tisha-1 agony auntChippy, thank goodness you are well away from this creep. I don't care how handsome or charming he was, the man is a narcissist and interested only the servicing of his penis. Be thankful that you are well away from him and I am so proud of you for being strong and gone from him.

Just ignore the creepo. Any more thought dedicated to him is a waste of oxygen!

Think of all the good stuff that can be made into memories with a good guy! Now THAT bears some good thought. :D

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A female reader, Chippy2 United States +, writes (9 July 2010):

Chippy2 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you to all who responded to my question. I know it is for the best that I am not with him - But yes I do miss the good stuff. But I gotta keep reminding myself of the bad things.

I guess someday I will get over him and understand why I allowed him to treat me like that.

Thanks again

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (7 July 2010):

Honeypie agony auntHe sounds like a jerk and a loser. Cut him loose.

Ignore him, block his calls/e-mails and move on with life. I'm pretty sure you can find a better man and attached to said man.. a better cock.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2010):

Block contact and ignore him for the rest of his life. You don't need a man like this around you. Yes, it is about control. To stop him controlling you, you need to cut all contact.

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (7 July 2010):

Honeygirl agony auntCut this man out of your life completely and if he continues to harass you - get a restraining order against him.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010):

Ignore him completely, as long as you keep playing his game he'll keep antagonizing.

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A female reader, xanthic United States +, writes (7 July 2010):

xanthic agony auntIt's definitely about control for him. He sounds incredibly insecure, why haven't you blocked him from contacting you?

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