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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Maybe it has to do with whom you know. I certainly see that when one marriage is in trouble, it can cause a domino effect in a circle of friends.
As far as I know, my DH and I have been faithful 15 years, and all of our close friends with marriages of similar vintage have been hanging in there despite the occasional rough bits. Happy all the time? Of course not. But always happier with than without.
Or maybe nobody gossips to me. But it is true, one can only hope and trust.
My parents are moving up on their 50th anniversary and have never cheated.
All is not lost... all is not corrupt... everlasting truth and fidelity are possible.
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reader, thats_not_my_name  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 yeah my parents lol and all my aunts and uncles! thats 5 couples...but i can see your frustration...no one seems to stay together these days!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): There is a lot of people that I know wouldn't even dream of cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): I'm glad there are people out there who still believe no one cheats. It has been my experience that everyone is faced with temptation, no matter how long you have been together. I know several couples, including my in-laws that have been together years, if you were to see them you would think they were just married yesterday. I have listened to them tell me that my husband has never cheated on me or my wife has never cheated. The thing is you don't know. I have actually seen some of them out kissing other people. Does it mean that they don't love there spouse no. It just means that they are human with human weaknesses and flaws. It opened my eyes to know that we never really know the person we married and we don't really know what our spouse will do when we are not around. We can believe with all our heart that after 5, 10, 15 years of marriage that our spouses will never cheat, but in reality we don't know. We can only hope and trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): My parent have been happily married for 49 years; if you had to see them together, you will think the are on honeymoon;
I do know of quite a few happily married couples where cheating have never been a considertaion by either party;
I personally have been married before for more then 10 years and there was no cheating eithr way.
Best wishes and lots of smiles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Lots of people cheat and get cheated upon all the time throughout their lives.
And lots of other people never cheat or get cheated upon in their lives.
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (12 July 2008):
I have been in a relationship for a little over a year. With talk of the future and marriage when i finish school, i know this is the woman for me and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. Before this relationship, i never had a regular sex partner. I have made the choice to love my girl and to be faithful to her, and right now, i don't see any way or reason that that decision will change. I want her in my life. sure i am a man and my think about what it would have been like to "play the field" a little before committing myself to one person, but i don't wanna risk loosing my woman to experience sex with some other person. The guilt would destroy me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): My parents have been together for over 25 years and neither has ever cheated. I could mention several other couples but I don't know them as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Of course. My dad is about your age, and he has been with his girlfriend for over six or seven years and they are happily together and my dad has never cheated nor has she. But my dad is not a cheating type. He never cheated on my mom and they were together for 8 or 9 years.
And my ex boyfriend who I adored never cheated on me. We were together for two years, but I know that he wasn't the cheating type. You just know.
Really, it sounds like your circle of friends have been unlucky or simply made very poor choices in men.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 loads of people arent cheating :)
My mother and father(step) are 100% happy and they have been together for donkeys. Got married 4 weeks after knowing eachother :) My mother and biological father were together for over 6 years before he passed away and my mother stated they were very happy together. Loads of friends of the family for 20+ years and they are still very happy with eachother. My husbands parents have been together since they were 14 and 16 and you can tell from how hard they try to please one another that there is no one else in this world for them but one another. Its so sweet.
But dont let those men and woman who cant control themselves get to you. There are men out there and woman who do know what self control is! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): I've been in one relationship that has lasted over five years (so far, anyways). In the last year of that relationship, which saw her living in California and me living in Ohio, I cheated on my girlfriend twice.
Truth be told, though, I was driven to this more because of the long distance in our relationship than because of the length of time we had been together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): i have been with my partner 5 years and i have never cheated on her,as we are great friends as well as lovers,not all people cheat as they value and respect their partner
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (11 July 2008):
Yes, my Brother and his Wife dated for 6 years and then got married and have been for 2 years now. In that time neither have cheated.
Its rare, but it is possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): My mum cheated on my dad about 12 years ago, they'd been together for over 10 years faithfully before that though. They also got back together 8 years ago and have both remained faithful since.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Yes but very few. My co-worker and his fiance have been in a relationship for 8 years now and he has never cheated. they are friends with other long term couples too.none of them have ever cheated. i ges the company you keep and the way in which you were raiseb count.All these guys were abandoned by their fathers and raised by single mothers. they resect women deeply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): i have never been in a short term relationship. and i have never ever cheated. i am with a man now that i have been with for more than a year now and we love each other so much that the thought of either of us cheating would break us. there is no way that it would ever happen. we plan to be married this year and truthfully, if the couple is truly in love then they will never stray from one another. could never imagine hurting someone so much.
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reader, I care  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Yes, I know many couples that stay faithful to eachother. So don't give up hope. Some examples are my husband and I we've been together for 10 year and married for 5 of them, many of my christian friends in chapmans Valley my one set of friends have been married going on 50 years this year and they have never cheated.Trust me there is the right person out there for you you just have to have patience and god will put in place for you so don't give up on true love. It does exist. I wish you all the best and my prayers are with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): I know two couples that have been happily married and never cheated. One couple that are both 40 have been married for 17 years w/out cheating, and the other couple is in their 60's and have never been cheated. They've been married for 43 years. I'm sorry to hear about everyone cheating.
I'm sorry if this didn't give u hope, I mean I'm only 14, but I'm just trying to give u reassurance that there's still loyal people out there.
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