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writes:i am 16 and im with my first serious bf, and have been for 5 months... i love him and he makes me happy. when we first started dating it was all flames and now its more ashes. Everytime i want to mention this to him i get scared and just keep it to myself. i don't know how to tell him.and to make things more complicated an old friend comes into the mix(who i haven't seen since i was 5 and lives about 6hrs from me and our only contact would be phone or IM), lets call him "george", we saw each other over christmas and we connected, we were both attracted by each other, he wanted someone older and more experienced although he's more experienced. nothing happened but now i want something to happen.i love my bf but im equivalently attracted by george. We both could have let something happen but we both held back and now i really want some kind of contact with him.i wouldnt leave my bf for him, but i still want a relationship with georgei dont know what to do, what's worth doing and i just need some guidance through this situation.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (10 January 2008):
It seems your feelings for your boyfriend have changed and i agree with Laura1318 that if you've tried to reignite the fire but have failed it's better you go your seperate ways and move on.It seems you are more attracted to george but feel committed to your boyfriend because he's your 1st serious boyfriend.If you really want george,break up with your current then consider dating george.You really can't have them both.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 You can't have the cake and eat it as well. You have to decide who you want. Three is a company and someone will get hurt sooner or later.If you are not going to leave your b/f ,then treat George as a casual friend and no more.
If the fire has gone out with your b/f ,and if you have tried to reignite and it wont light on , then you will have to move on.
If you are unsure , then give yourself more time to decide.Lists their pros and cons and then decide who is the better man.
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