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writes:i know this girl that im going out with, we've been goin out for about 6 months but i've known since i was a kid. i love her with all my heart but im ready to have sex with her but she worried that she'll get pregnant since her friend got pregnant even since her bf used a condom. i understand that she is doesnt want to get pregnant but im ready for that next step. i want to know if shes good in the bedroom because for me to want to be with her she has to have two things and those are a good heart and good in the bedroom. so how do i get her to have sex with me just on time?
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reader, BeXsTaR  +, writes (27 May 2008):
 dont push her into n e think if u reli love her that much sex matter
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): wait till she is ready
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (26 May 2008):
 "The Fine Art of Caring for a Woman" -- Chapter 1...
DO NOT force your girlfriend to expand beyond the limits of her comfort-zone. An intimate sexual encounter is comprised to two things:
1) A willing and giving female that is truly interested in you both inside and out; somebody that she trusts with her secrets and her life itself.
2) A willing and understanding male that is truly interested in sharing an intimacy reserved for caring couple and above all else is looking to give as much pleasure and love as he is looking to receive. His approach should be genuine and not self-centered.
Have you considered that having an intimate encounter does not necessarily have to include intercourse? Have you thought about showing you appreciation to her as much as you want her to show it for you? If some of these thoughts haven't entered your mind, please consider them... and above all,, don't pressure her into it. If anything, let it be her choice. You're looking for a relationship here, not a one night stand... right?
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (26 May 2008):
 If you really loved this girl, you would respect her decision not to have sex with you.
Sex should be a perk or a relationship, not a defining feature of it.
Assuming that she is a virgin, having sex with her 'just once' will not be a good indicator to how good she is in the bedroom. A person's bedroom expertise comes with experience, it's not just something that happens.
If she has to be 'good in the bedroom' for you to be with her, then that indicates to me that you don't understand how a relationship should work. You should be happy just to be in her company.
If you love her that much, you should love her enough to wait until she is ready, without putting pressure on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): Jees.
Look, sweety, the more time you spend together in the bedroom the more compatible you will become. The more time you spend there together the more time you will have to get to know each others bodies and the more you will know what the other likes. The more time that is spent there the better and better it will become (until after the honey-moon period, but that's a different story).
You say that you love her, but trying to get her into bed just once, when she is not comfortable is not really what I would call love.
She is right to wait, as if she doesn't get it right the very first time (even though she is a virgin, I presume?)then you wouldn't wait around for her.
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