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writes:Im having a baby and my boyfriend treats me like shit and i do everything for him yes i will yell sometimes but not all the time but i do everything i can and more and he will be the biggest asshole to me but i love him and i dont know what to do i cry all the time and i cant help it sometimes im so lost help please Reply to this Question
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reader, Always hopeful +, writes (30 July 2011):
It seems like my situation is more common then I thought. My and my boyfriend have been on and off for the past 6 years... The longest break we had was about a year and a half and the entire time he was begging for me to come back. He's cheated and lied and thru it all I've managed to stay in love with him. I've always wanted to be with him but I knew he had some changing to do. But to me he is everything I wanted and needed in a man except for a few minor character flaws... I guess I just figured no one is perfect. We never used protection and I've never been on birth control while we were together. At times I guess it didn't matter if I got pregnant I think we both figured we would love eachother enough to make it work and at other times we've even tried to get pregnant and at other times I know he's tried to get me pregnant maybe to keep me. Well this last time I came back to him he promised me the world he said things were gonna be different. He found a house and moved us right in together. A couple weeks later we went away for the weekend to pismo and he proposed to me on the beach in 100 ft of sand and there was candles and it was perfect! So I thought... As soon as we got back everything changed he was different. One night we got in a big fight and I took off my ring and left it on the night stand and went to my moms for the weekend thinking he would think about losing me again and make some changes. I came back to my stuff packed in boxes and him kicking me out of our house. I was humiliated. What a bastard?!! Come to find out he was cheating again and lying again I talked to the girl and everything. So a couple weeks later he came crawling back BEGGING me to please come home. I didn't this time tho. But I did stay the night here and there and guess what? I'm now 8 wks pregnant and he's up to his same shit. Telling me to get an abortion and that I'm "too mean" to him. He's 30 yrs old and he acts like he's 5! He has an extra room and he's moving some girl and her kid in I guess to help her out cuz her bf beats her :( it's all bullshit. He's a piece of shit and he tricked me. I feel so lost and alone now. I live in my moms living room now and I'm not working cuz I've been so sick. I never woulda thought that he would do this to me. This may seem like a long story but this is only the half of it. - always hopeful
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): i am going thro the exact same thing. I am currently now 6 months pregnant and 21 yrs old. During the first 3 months of my pregnancy i felt completely alone. When my partner and i found out i was pregnant he thought i would "take care of the problem" but when he approached me about it, i just could not bring myself to do it. Thats when our problems started. He said i would get ugly and fat and that the baby would be retarded. Plus he wanted to buy a brand new $45,000 knowing i was pregnant. He said a baby would ruin him getting his car and that he was going to do it neway. He blew all his money on that car. He would yell at me and curse at me for keeping the baby. Like i had previously mentioned we were together for 5 yrs. I would have never expected for him to react that way. I have never felt more alone and neglected. There came a point were i just could not take nemore. So i broke it off. I told him we should go our own ways. And thats all it took for him to leave. Although i had the complete support of my family, things didin't feel rite. I felt alone and i fell into a depression those months i was alone were the most difficult moments of my life. One day after not hearing from my boyfriend for months he decided he wanted to work things out. He said he was going to change that he was going to show me things were going to be different. I was so alone i didn't really put up much of a fight. Needless to say we got back together. We were ok for the first few days. And then things went back to the way they were. Our anniversary came and we did nothing. Christmas passed he stopped by for a lil bit and left. The same for new years. Untill eventually i was lucky if i was him twice a week for an hour or 2. Unless u call him sleeping in the same room i'm in spending time together we hardly had any. He lives with his grandparents who give him everything. His grandmother cleans his room and makes his food. Recently, they have gone on vaction and still i have spent no time with him. He hasn't invited me over and when i ask to spend the night with his he says he wants to be alone. He does work and started going to school. But one the rare occasions we can be together we are not. I don't know what to do nemore. hopefully someone will read this and give me some soild advise. I am so confused.
-only human
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reader, long  +, writes (17 December 2008):
Friends. Seek them for help. Share with them your problems on your girls-day out. This will help you for the time being. When your mind has cleared, have a conversation with your boyfriend and ask him what he really wants.
His reply could be anything, but at least he will get your main point; that you don't like the way your being treated.
I mean, neither of you signed up for a relationship like this in the beginning ya? You signed up for that caring guy and you deserve it.
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