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writes:What the heck?!? My boyfriend of a few days kept joking around and making comments about having sex. So, I figured that I should mention 'no sex' yet. I want to get to know him better and not rush into it! Basically, I'm not ready yet. His response was 'You know I'm not with you for the sex.' The thing is he wanted to seal the deal the same night he made it official' So, I was like NOPE! And he got all quiet on me for a looooong time. Ok, so he tells me call me later so we both can talk. Since we're both at work. I've noticed every time I call him, any time he picks up the call. This time nothing. Still no word from him. What to make of this? I really don't want to lose him, but I'm not going to let him have his way. I want him to take me serious!! Help!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 January 2009):
You said "no sex yet", he said "yeah yeah yeah", then you said "No, seriously, no sex yet!" and he threw a sulk....
That is not a good sign hun. When he decides to stop being a 12 yearold girl and actually talk to you again I think you need to ask him if that is going to be a problem. Tell him it could be months yet so if he is not in it for the long term wait then he has to find someone else.
You may lose him but to be honest, if you do, then he was never worth it to start with.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, beautiful-disaster  +, writes (29 January 2009):
Basically i think he's not worth it.
if hes going to guilt you into having his way then get rid of him. Basically that is what he's doing. By not answering your calls he's left you wondering whats going on. i think its good your not going to let him have his way. dont cave in stand up for what you think is right make him wait and have respect for you. and i know you dont want to lose him but there could be a better man out there waiting? one who wont mind you not wanting to rush into sex!
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reader, cdjudd +, writes (29 January 2009):
I'm not jumping to conclusions here, but the fact he tried to have sex with you the night you made it official is quite questionable to his character. Now not answering the phone could mean he's busy. I do recommend relying on your instinct to give you guidance. Your instinct is there for a reason and is VERY reliable. As a guy, I always felt that sex happened naturally, not forced. Best of luck.
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