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writes:Im married for 15 years but just cudnt connect with my husband emotinaly...thot of breaking my marriage many a times but tried my best to change as per his requirments.....over the perid i felt i more like a door mat for him and to his entire family ....since im a house wife im completly depended on him monitarily..i lost my only brother recently ..now my old parents also been my responsiblity due to this my husband started feeling im more of a burdn and lost further respect he started taking me more and more for granted....i felt i lost everything even tho im smart and attractive i lost complete confidence in myself...i spent lot of nights crying by myself since my husband is a businessman travels a lot im always alone and lonely until i met this man on facebook things changed like magic....he met me on his frnds wall he felt connected to me the moment he saw me even tho we had not added each other....my life has changed completly ...i dont have to explain much he understands everything what i feel....when im in pain it hurts him he crys for me ...when we met it was like heaven ...by holding his hands i fet lot of positive vibration i felt very very secured the moment i hugged him ....even tho we stay far away in diffrent city we are constantly in touch we spend almost 4 -6 hours on phone...our lives are almost the carboncopy even tho he is coming from different religious background we have the same nature taste likings...above all our life prtners have similar nature too we both have been treated the same way by our partners ...i just want to know what shud we do now...im living with my husband just for the sake of our children and he too......we both are torn apart...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Dear sisterhow can you cheat your husband who is only person taking responsibility of every one in the family.i feel your letters are dubious attempt to justify your cheating .. i can not connect...i do not love....etc etc etc..in my opinion you are the culprit than you gentleman and hardworking and responsible husband. it is time to either stop fooling every one including yourself or announce to every one that you are a cheater and you cheated to every one in the familyyour husband supported you in all your problems and in the end this is what he is getting. I am sorry for being truthful which may be blunt but it may help you from destroying every thing that you have got.other wise leave your husband and get him a truly loving and faith ful women
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reader, CatherineA  +, writes (11 July 2010):
My condolences, sweetheart.
If you are married and you have children, you are obligated to make at least one serious effort to make it work. That means having a serious (not confrontational) conversation with your husband, telling him how you feel but acknowledging that you would like to have a happy marriage with him if at all possible. Think about it: it would be better for your kids and better for you and your husband if you could work it out (not to mention a lot cheaper than a divorce). TRY to work it out -- TRY to get some counseling. There are places that will help you. Start with a local pastor if you don't know where else to go (even if you aren't currently going to church). Divorce is devastating, and usually leaves the wife and children in poverty.
Whatever you do, though, do NOT tell him about your FB friend. That's a good way to enrage him and you could end up losing your kids.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 When you married him the vows you exchanged were that through sickness and strength you'll love him. He's the most important person in your life. Listen to his side of the story. When you said you being treated like a doormat I think of a man yelling out orders do this do that, giving her silent treatment, complaining about everything single thing from work to how the kids behave to how the house looks like, then go to sleep. Is that what it has become? Can he pinpoint to where his anger came from? Such as feeling neglected, overstressed, unappreciated, worries about money? Before I assume all this is he as bad as it sounds like? Do you feel safe expressing your feelings and can you do so in a calm manner? You know the only thing good about having is that you know you are still wanted by men, other than that it does nothing to solve your problem.
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