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writes:Right to the point, im in love with my bestfriend and i dont know how to tell him!! or rather im scared to lose him. lets say my bestfriends name is sean. sean and i met around 8 months ago when both of us had just got out of bad relationships. we slowly got close to eachother. we texted eachother the entire day, told eachother what was troubling us, how our days went, etc. one day (around 3months of knowing eachother) he asked me "what would you say if i asked you out" and i just said i would maybe consider it, i honestly thought he was kidding like he always did!! a few days later, he began saying 'i love you' at night before hanging up and i'd say it too, in a friendly way. i'd never taken sean seriously before. when i was on vacation, he'd call me to say he misses me and he would sound sad. he even told me then that he should probably stop calling me for then so he wouldnt miss me as much but he still did anyways. after i got back i became so attached to this guy. i've started falling for him. and then he starts calling me his "bestfriend". i dealt with that for a long time. we still texted and called eachother and once in awhile he'd say he loves me (i assume he'd say that only as a friend?) recently, excuses started coming up. he says his parents dont let him text too much or he needs to sleep early (he usually sleeps at 2am otherwise). from the past week he has hardly been texting me and when he does he seems uninterested and in the last two days the texting completely stopped! he just called me yesterday afternoon cause i told him i wasnt feeling too well to cheer me up and didnt call later that night even when he said he would. im so used to always talking to him, i feel incomplete when i dont. my friend told me i need to start dropping hints that i like him cause guys often back away when they see a girl not interested at first. im afraid he isnt interested anymore or he's just too bored of me now. i keep over thinking about this entire situation and i feel really low and ignored.i just want him to know im in love with him now but at the same time im so clueless and also scared that he wont like me back again no matter how much i try. i texted him this morning, he didnt reply. but he answered his phone immediately when one of my friends called him and it didnt seem like he was at work. i feel like a complete loser sitting here waiting for him to call me and since he might be at work i dont know if i should call him. what do i do? also how do i drop hints telling him i like him? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks to everyone who replied :) ive waited almost a month now, and there has been little improvement. Now he texts me when he gets free from work. im okay about it now. The only thing that bothers me now he keeps asking me to look out for girls for him :( it makes me think like im invisible or something! i dont feel like waiting any longer. i just want to scream it at his face that i love him!! but i know i would never be able to :(
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 In life, you're darned lucky to have a bestfriend that happens to alson end up being your spouse. Think about it and wonder what your life will be if you never say anything?barren and unfullfilled?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): If he didn't text you back its not a good sign. When a guy really likes you he texts you back immediately or as soon as he is free. We can never really tell what is going on in a guy's mind.They are very mysterious creatures.Maybe he gave up or maybe he got bored pursuing you. I understand what you are going through.Fellow sisterhood you see;).As difficult as it is going to be can you do something for me?Don't call him or text him.Let him come to you.Let him call you first.This is going to be the toughest period of your life.When your fingers itch to press his number on your phone do something else.If he doesn't its his loss. I do trust guys and I don't think guys can fall out of love that easily.He will definitely call you.A week or a month.I cannot give you an exact time period.When he calls let him know that you missed him.Start flirting.Ask him,"Why are you appearing regularly in my dreams?".Tell him he looks handsome.If he is interested he will definitely ask you out.Waiting is the toughest part during courting.But the best of guys is worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): well to me it sounds like he likes you but for his recent behaviour i think he has given up tying because you have acted like he's just a friend so hes just trying to get over you.
i wouldn't drop hints to him i would just talk to him in private and tell him how you feel because he still probably likes you but he has tried to get over you by not texting etc.
just tell him how you feel good luck
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