I want to lose my virginity to a guy who's not a virgin, how can I please him?

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Question - (8 August 2009)

3 Answers - (Newest, 8 August 2009)

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay,im kinda in a jam.i have been in love with this guy for almost two years, and i was talking to him about us having sex.he seemed to like the idea.hes not a virgin, and i am.i know im ready to do this, and i am positive i want to do this. im not going to tell you my age becasue i don't want any of you to tell me that im to young. im scared i wont be good enough to please him.im not to scared about it hurting. i just dont know what to do while we have intercourse..helpppppp...

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A female reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (8 August 2009):

Nobody's perfect on the first time, so if your not his best, you have an excuse! Just ask him what he likes, that's the most you can do until you have some more experience.

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A male reader, Aunty Tommy +, writes (8 August 2009):

Hunny,

Sex is a wonderful and explorative experience, there is no right or wrong way to do it.

One thing i will say though, make sure this is the person you want to lose your "virginity" to. Losing your virginity is a lifetime commitement and shouldn't be given lightly (which i am sure you wont do)

It doesnt matter if he is or is not a virgin. Its a two way street. You will be discovering what you both like/dislike when you "get down to business". Talk to each other about what you both like and go from there

With regards to the age part of your question. As long as you are of the legal age, does it really matter how old you are. if you are not the legal age, i would advise against this as it is classed as Rape which could leave you bf in deep trouble with the authority even if it is consensual

Hope this helps

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009):

u shouldn't b so worried

it's quite simple

once you've started he will make u understand or feel what he wants

tell him that it's ur first time and he will lead u and help u do the right moves

it's really not that hard and the guy does most of the work

if u rly want to have a better idea watch some porn

just don't be worried nor scared ... just relax and enjoy it (have a couple of shots of vodka before starting ... just to help u relax and loosen up a little)

and about pleasing him ... sex is always pleasing so dnt wry bout that

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