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writes:i would like to let everyone know that i'm not 13-15 but im unable to change it on my profile, i am 21. i am 5 months pregnant by exboyfriend (26 y/o). he was not the best boyfriend in the world but i was very very in love with him. at the moment i live in california and he lives in argentina. we are VERY far away. he has not been with me during my pregnancy. he has been mean and ever since he's known i'm pregnant, he has hated me. he hurts me so much, i have decided to stop talking to him. he says things like "forget i will ever be with you or have a family with you" or "you know you will be a crappy mom, why don't you just give me the baby so you can fuck around like th slut you are".my ex is 26, i loved him for many reasons and i feel that i sometimes still do. i miss him so much but i had to stop talking to him because he was damaging me so much. he seemed like such a great guy, but now that i look back he was a compulsive lier, a comittment-phobe, he was indifferent to me, emotionally abusive and has a terrible porn addiction. He has always been overweight and has body image issues, he never said i was pretty, he made me feel ugly. i loved him just the way he was and i was jelous and a bit posessive because he wouldnt tell me anything nice or sweet.he just never valued the good stuff i did for him and now he says its my fault that nothing worked out and im just not special or beautiful or smart or interesting enough for him to ever love me. he even denies ever loving me. i dont know what to do anymore, i have tried being friends. he always wanted a child and i would like him to be in my baby's life but he hurts me too much.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Is he giving up his rights to be a father? Do you want to be a single mom? Does he want to be in the childs life? You can't take away his rights to be with the child, so if he wants to he will. If he does not want to have anything to do with the child then that is just as good as well, since he is a meanie, and I can't see how the distance will be easily dealt with. Either way: this is not up to you. This is up to him.
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