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writes:I can't stop thinking about if/when my boyfriend will propose!! We've been together almost a year and knew after only a few months of dating that we were meant for each other. I know he's waiting to become more financially stable as we both don't have jobs and go to school full time. I mention it all the time, not because I want to pressure him into it or anything, but just because it's on my mind, and I love him so much. How can I stop obsessing and let it happen as it comes? It's hard having the lady in waiting syndrome so early on in the relationship :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): have you discussed it and confirmed that it is something you both want?
marriage is huge, something that will impact your whole life, and it would be entirely understandable for him to want to be entirely sure everything is right before taking the next step; i've known people who were together 10 years before getting engaged.
i think that rushing things along could, in the end, give him apprehension; the pressure of knowing you want it so bad could be freezing him. him always having it on the brain in that way might not be a good thing, as it may not manifest in the same way it does for you... guys aren't always on the same wave length when it comes to marriage as we are.
take things as the come and not try and rush anything... through the years i've learned the more you want something the harder it is to acquire. try not to over think it... if it's meant to be it'll happen. until then, just live in the now and enjoy being with him.
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