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writes: Hi. i currently work at a firm and since i have started there i have liked the look of him, but i never took any action. anyway we had a works doo at christmas and we started talking and began to get closer as the night went on. i found out that he had a girlfriend that he has been with nearly 2 years now. so i just put it down to a bit of fun. a couple of days after i got a txt off him, he had got my number of one of the other lads from work. i ended up meeting up with him that night he txt me. we went out at night every night without fail, for quite a while. we began to get closer and my feelings were just getting stronger for him, he told me he had feelings for me too. i did feel guilty about his girlfriend and so did he. he had to lie to her about where he was and he got his best friend to cover for him. all this went on for about a month, then soon after that it hit him what he was doing, and he told me we had to stop what we were doing, i was devastated, i wanted him sooo much. i suggested that he told his girlfriend everything. he finally said he would, but i dont know whether he actually did. anyways he told me that we couldn't carry on, he told me that we should let the dust settle for a while and not txt or anything. it was soo hard seeing him at work, it broke my heart because it was a reminder of what i cant have. and to make it worst he wouldn't talk. we had another doo last week and he spoke 2 me, we again got friendly, but not to much, he bought me drinks n paid for me all night and even got in a taxi home with me. i have tried moving on, but i just think about him what ever i do or whoever im with. i just want him sooo much, i just dont know how to get him now. hes perfect in my eyes. i just dont want to loose him. any advice, and please dont say move on and forget about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): well I think you should just wate it out and see how it goes with his g-friend because I am kinda in the same situation and like this guy that has a girl friend that I work with and we are all the time flirting and everything and he know's I like him and I really wished so bad they would break up but I don't know but if it is ment to work out it will!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): well I think you should just wate it out and see how it goes with his g-friend because I am kinda in the same situation and like this guy that has a girl friend that I work with and we are all the time flirting and everything and he know's I like him and I really wished so bad they would break up but I don't know but if it is ment to work out it will!
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reader, StarNews +, writes (26 March 2006):
 He just wanted his ego stroked, and nothing more. He is taken, chasing after you because he loves the game, and lying to his girlfriend about where he is. He is sneaky and trying to see how much he can get away with, without being caught.
He is calling all the shots, and he doesn't care that he is stringing you along and playing with your feelings. He is not trusworthy, and you are seeing him for what he is. Be thankful you are not his girlfriend.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (24 March 2006):
 I'm sorry to be so blunt but I think he is a player. He was goin behind his girlfriends back with you, you were just fun to him, as his girlfriend is obviously just fun to him. He is the type of bloke who can't and won't face up to his actions. You asked him to, and I don't think he has or will. You just gotta ask yourself two questions...
1) Is this the type of man you wana be with?
2) Are you happy to be with a man who has another women in his life?
Once you have answered these questions you will know what to do!
Good lucK...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Do you really want to date a guy that would cheat on his girlfriend of 2 years? If he did that to her with you, what makes you think that he won't do the same thing to you later on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Hi there!
Just wanted to say that I felt like you about 2yrs ago!
This guy I liked, and he liked me too, had a gf and even married her, but a year or two into their marriage we got talking over email and ended up talking nearly everyday for over a yr!-we met up occasionly too but only for a chat type thing. I thought he was perfect and if he just wasnt married, if he knew I had liked him before he got married, then he would've been with me!
fast forward two years and it turns out he aint so perfect!! I have now met a knew guy (my now bf of over a yr) and it makes me just how aware of how unperfect this last guy was, I was so obsessed with just having him, I failed to really see him for who he really was!
I'm not saying this guy may not be 'perfect' but for the moment he has a gf end of. The yr I was talking to my guy I hardly ever thought about his gf/wife. But now I would really like to talk to her and say 'you know what, watch out, I hope he isnt still doing it as otherwise leave him!' type thing, as she didnt deserve that either, just as this guy's girlfriend doesnt deserve it. I know it sounds a bit hash, but if the roles were reversed and you were the 'gf' how would it make you feel?
Noone can stop you feeling for this guy, and if you want to wait round to see if he will ditch this girl for you then thats your choice (i did for a year and now think it was such a waste!!). Personally, I wouldnt, in my opinion if he was that perfect he would feel the same about you and break-up with this girl, rather than stringing her long so to speak! (dont you want someone who thinks you are perfect and just has to have you too?)
Maybe, like me, you'll only be over him when you realise for yourself he's not this perfect guy you've made him out to be, or it could work out all rosey!
I dont feel I can tell you whats right or wrong, just more my experience on the situation and what I would do, sorry if I have rambled on a bit, hope it works out for you tho! :)
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reader, MissMo +, writes (24 March 2006):
if it's meant to be, you two will eventually get together. you can only wait for him for so long, though. i hate playing games, but sometimes they work. why not go on dates with other guys, and let the news travel to your office buddy? maybe it'll wake him up and make him realize that he's losing you. guys won't make a move if they feel secure in what they have. you have to make him insecure. worst case scenario, nothing works out with you and this guy - but at least you're distracting yourself with other people and not sitting home alone waiting for him to call.
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reader, dobby666 +, writes (24 March 2006):
 Well i'm sorry to say it but move on and forget him. He's been stringing you along maybe because things with his girlfriend aren't going so well or it could be thats the kind of guy he is. If he's cheated on his girlfriend with you then who's to say he won't do the same to you. Move on and Good luck!!
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