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writes:Ok me and my bf have some what of an age difference but its not a big deal. The thing is we've been together for 2 almost 3 years febuary 2. And i love him with all my heart and he feels the same...the problem is i want a baby really really badly. he says he wants one too just not yet. the thing is i really don't want to wait. how can i go about talking him into the baby? i've gone over and over every sittuation that can happen in my head and i'm ready for it all. i know i'm a little young but i'm ready please someone help!!!
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reader, CeeCeeBaby +, writes (21 February 2009):
 Well i am one that can say 4m exsperanic i am 18 got preg. At 16 and hun you dont want a baby i relize that u arnt askin if u want one er not but think about this... I had to drop out of school i have NO edu. I get up at 630 no matter what day it is also waken up at 330 and stayn up for a hour and go to bed at 10 every day and my son is one. Its not the life for every one. It is a exspencive one i am lucky i have a job n a place of my own. Cause when i didnt i felt HELPLESS to my son felt like i couldnt do nething to better him and his life and that is the WORST feelin 4 a mother to have. Just wait until u can Truley provid for a baby. They r a handful. Hope this helped. Well my son finally went back to bed and i need some sleep b4 he wakes up again . Let me no what u deside 2 do. P.s i am not tryn to change ur mind jus tryn to give u somethin to think about. K.i.t
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reader, jorjax1x  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 well i think you should wait till you've got a job and in a stable relashionship.
and i know other people would have told you this and you are gonna go and do what you want any way, but where you gonna get the money , and how old are you...
keep me imformed
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reader, Gossamer +, writes (20 January 2009):
Dear HisLadyLove,You're only 13-15: you have your whole life ahead of you! Why give it up now?Trust me, babies may seem like adorable little bundles of joy to you at the moment (and don't get me wrong - they are very cute a lot of the time) but I don't think you realise how much work it is to have a baby of your own! Imagine being woken up by the anguished screams of your chils, several times every night, for at least a year. No time for sleep, no time for parties, no time for anything. Utter exhaustion takes over, turning you into a ghost of your former self. It's not for the faint-hearted, believe you me. Grown-up women find it challenging enough; a girl of your age would find it near impossible, and possibly psychologically damaging.Furthermore, it's extremely fair on the child: children are very impressionable creatures, and need strong guardians to bring them up. I'm not saying that you aren't a strong person - you probably are - but you're only a teenager, and a young teen at that! You are too inexperienced, and impressionable yourself to take up the role of mother.Moreover, what about your education? What about your hopes, dreams and aspirations? Once you have a baby, you will have no time to do things for yourself, such as continuing with your education, in order to get a good job. And if you can't get a job, then you can't provide for your baby. Would you really want to bring up your child in such a way: lacking the funds to feed it, to buy it clothes and toys? I know I wouldn't. It would be an extremely inhumane thing to do.Finally, imagine how your family would feel, and react, if you were to have a child at such an early age. They would probably continue to support you but even so, they would feel disappointed in you, and perhaps even a little ashamed. I'm sure that you wouldn't want to degrade their opinion of you.I think you really need to think things through again. Your boyfriend is absolutely right in making you wait - you are much to young to be thinking about having a baby.Make the most of your carefree life now: there's plenty of time later to have children. Please don't rush into a decision that you will regret in years to come.Good luck. God bless.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 January 2009):
for god sake how can you look after a child when you are still a child!
you can't finacially support the baby, you can't go to school and have a baby at the same time. you can't go out with your friends and do normal teenage things with a baby. your life would change and be a very lonely one. trust me, my friend had a baby young and she regrets not being able to go to college,parties and usual teen things. what is the rush! slow down, be a kid and leave it untill you are a responsible adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): you shouldn't talk him into having a baby. If you want a happy family then give him time. Rushing him will just cause him to become stressed and it won't be as happy as you may think.
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