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writes:I recently found an old classmate on Facebook. I sent him a friend request which he accepted! Here's the thing...I had a huge crush on him in high school, however we didn't share the same friends and never hung out. I still think he is oh so attractive! Do I say anything to him or not? If so then what do I even say? It's not like I could just casually say we should get a drink and catch up because we never have really been "friends". He doesn't appear to have a girlfriend from what I can tell on Facebook. Please give me a few pointers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2013): You should definitely initiate a conversation. This is one of those situations where you have to take initiative if you want something.Just don't mention that you had a crush on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2013): Of course you should! Strike up a conversation with him on Facebook and feel him out, see if he is receptive. If he is not online send him a message saying what's up. You may not have hung out but you prob had the same teachers. Make a joke about your high school or a certain teacher. Make a joke about one of his pictures (a nice funny joke that you know will make him chuckle, nothing crass or insulting). Keep it open ended so he'll respond. Don't tell him you have or had a crush on him though! Or that you think he's cute. Too soon for that. But like I said keep it open ended and certainly make yourself open to the idea of hanging or at least being friendly for now, if he responds. But don't seem too eager or available. Just feel him out, play with it a little and see how things play out. Good luck.
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reader, Anashia +, writes (29 March 2013):
I think you should ask him if he wants to meet up because that's where a good friendship gets started by hanging out. If he doesn't have a girlfriend than of course you should hang out with him. If you ask him to maybe meet up somewhere and hang out then that's a good start to a good friend ship and be yourself dOnt be shy or anything. Ur welcome. ;":)
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