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I sent a fake picture to my boyfriend and now he has cancelled his flights to come and see me!

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Question - (9 April 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2009)
A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my boy friend has cancelled his flight today!!!

simply because i told him that the picture i sent to him was not of me but belong to someone else,since he wants to meet in person by the weekend, and i have to tell him the truth.

he was upset with me crying all day refused to talk to me, but i called him this morning and he manage to tell me that he has cancelled the flight for now.

he also said that he is not save even if he comes to my country since i lied to him.he never ask to see my real picture saying that he is not even sure if am not going to lie to him again

i'm sorry i lied to him, but i love him so much just want to be with him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009):

I don't blame him cancelling his flight as you lied to him and trust is so important in relationships.

Why did you lie to him? You need to think about that and about how he must feel.

I don't think it is possible to be in love with someone you never met. It is more likely that you are idealising him and have only seen his good points.

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A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (9 April 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntAs a man, I would do exactly the same thing he has done, for the following reasons:

1, You are a liar

2, You obviously have something to be ashamed about your appearance and sound a bit mental.

3, Boys relay on looks more than you think so even if he fell for your personality, he would also have been physically attracted to the girl in your picture.

You shouldn't do anything now, you have spoilt your chances with this guy for good. In future if you insist on internet dating, use a real picture... someone will like the way you look even if you don't, don't lie (no body likes a liar), get a web cam so they can see what you look like live (not doing a show!) But why not find a real guy in the real world. Internet dating is not real life dating however in love you think you are!

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (9 April 2009):

deejuliet agony auntHe is not interested in seeing your real picture because it is not a matter of whether he will find you attractive or not, it is a matter of him not being able to trust you and that the person he cared about does not exist. If you sent a fake picture, then how much more of what you presented is fake? How can he trust you? People lie and scam over the internet quite often and he believes now that you may fall into that catagory. He does not love you and you do not love him, you are both attracted to the persona that has been presented via computer, via fantasyland. He was ready to see if a 'real' relationship could come out of this, but once he found out that you were a fake he became angry and hurt and does not want to risk giving his heart to a liar who will only abuse his trust. Give it some time. Let him calm down. You can try again later and see if he will let you back in. IF he does give you a second chance, this time, be honest. But keep in mind, the persona that he has presented to you may not be comepletely true either.

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A female reader, cute angel Australia +, writes (9 April 2009):

cute angel agony auntawwww hun dont worry,just give him some space

y dont u send him a text expressing how sorry u feel about what u did and will never do it again..

and if u guys can have a video conference and talk it through..just make it clear to him that u really like him and never expected that things would get soo serious between you two and thats the only reason for u to send him a fake pic..all the best hun,i hope things work out for u

xoxo

angel

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A female reader, Macker Ireland +, writes (9 April 2009):

Macker agony auntyou need to find out why you did it and explain to him your reasons. and state clearly how you feel for him.. you must be honest with him and ensure he knows you will not lie to him again. you may have to earn back his trust but give him some time to himself he may need it to realise how he feels about you too.

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A female reader, ilovebowsandcherries United Kingdom +, writes (9 April 2009):

ilovebowsandcherries agony auntohhh dearr!!

hun why did you send a fake picture?

is there anyway you can like go on webcam and show your real self surely he would just be happy with the way you are you should of just told the truth rather than lie!

i'msure he will talk to you in time just give him some space to cool off and make him realise you really are truely sorry.

chin up hun!

message me you need anything :)

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