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writes:I moved about 9 months ago and there's this guy "Sam" back home. My friend and I tricked him into thinking I'm a slut and he likes me better now. I told him when I get home I'd make out with him and give him a hand job. The thing is, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM DOING! Please any tips so I don't do anything wrong. Like how do I give him one through his boxers without actually having to take his you know what out? I told him I've only given like three to one guy but I want him to be able to say that was HOT! and that's he best handjob I've ever gotten! Any real tips so I don't screw it up? Please? I really need help
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 If you try to give him a HJ through his boxers- he's gonna take it out himself... then what are you gonna do? Run out of the room or live up to the "slutty" reputation that you and your friend have created for yourself?
Its not my business what you do- nor do I particularly care, but if you think that he's not gonna push the boundaries of what you're comfortable with... sorry, but you're kidding yourself. Don't do this unless you've drawn boundaries and are prepared to stick to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): it's horrible what happens to kids these days."I'm easy, i can get anyone now that I put out for anything and anyone."Girl, start using those brain cells of yours. Don't start putting yourself out there like a "slut" ---Which is what MANY people will call you. All this for a guy to like you?That's honestly pathetic. You want a REAL MAN to like you... SHOW RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. Don't be stupid. When I was young, Girls that were easy got now where but broken hearts,stds,babies,etc. Half the girls that did this got NO WHERE in life. I doubt you will listen to anyone on here. But BE PREPAID for the pain that will follow once you start down this road. See you in a couple of years.I found out my teenage daughter has just started dressing to impress" or so they say. I sat down and told her the honest truth of what boys her age want and their actions after. I even took her to some places to meet girls who did the same thing that YOU are doing. She broke down crying and changed her ways fast. As harsh as that is it was needed. No child listens to their parents but maybe if they see the cause of their choices MAYBE we could save this generation.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (14 May 2012):
 A guy who likes 'easy' girls is 'easy' himself. Not surprisingly, no one ever uses that term to describe men. This man is not the one you want to be with, trust me. Do you really want to be with a man who would have sexual relations with just about any woman who approaches him? He's a slut himself. Stay away from him and find someone who wants a real relationship, not just an orgasm.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 May 2012):
 I agree with Tisha.. I doubt very much you are 18-21… Please if you are 13-15 forget about this scatterbrained idea.
And if you are 18-21, you are clearly NOT ready to have an adult relationship with a man and I suggest some counseling to figure out why you are willing to demean yourself for the scuzzy attention of a slimy boy who is only interested in sex….
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 May 2012):
 You are clearly not 18-21. This sounds like a question from someone about 13 years old.
If you have to ask, you are so not ready.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 May 2012):
 The 1 million dollar questions is, DO YOU like yourself better being thought off as easy?
Do try and fake something you are not. Either he likes you for you or he doesn't.
If he think you are a "slut" it doesn't mean he LIKES you better now, it just means he sees an opportunity to USE you now, for sex.
Don't chase after guys like that..
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 May 2012):
 And why did you go through all this trouble of misrepresenting yourself , for getting what ?
The chance of giving him a hand job ??
What's so special in this guy , has he got a solid gold dick ?
Honey, a hand job per se benefits the guy way more than the girl. He'd surely would get an orgasm, and you'd get ,also seeing your inexperience and the non romantic, businesslike context... just a sore wrist.
Now, I bet you think this is your " way in ". If you perform well, you think, he'll get interested in you, he'll like you more, he'll want to hang out, he' ll want you as more than just a helping hand...
Delusional. He'll think you are easy , convenient and docile, and he'll only call you for the occasional, spur of the moment hand job.
Not such a sweet deal for you, IMO.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 May 2012):
 He likes you better now? Haha, excuse me, but he doesn't like YOU better. He likes sex, and since you're selling yourself off as a sex toy then sure, he likes the product you are selling. Doesn't mean he actually likes YOU any better. He just likes hand jobs and making out.
If you were rich and started handing out money to everyone, sure, they'd just love you wouldn't they... or maybe not. Maybe it's just money they love after all.
If you're really going to go through with this slutty act then you're not faking it any longer, you're actually becoming it. Careful what you wish for. If the reputation goes around you'll soon have others knocking on your door wanting sexual services from you as well.
Don't worry though, he's probably never gotten a hand job before in his life and wouldn't know the difference.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (14 May 2012):
As ideas go, this has to be one of the most ridiculous ideas I’ve ever heard. By being dishonest with this guy about the kind of person you are, you’ve made him like some-one that isn’t really you. This is not the way to go about getting a man, you should find some-one who’s interested in who you are, not who they’d want you to be. Pull the plug on the whole idea. Tell him you’ve changed your mind and it’s not going to happen, and learn from this in the future.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, N91 +, writes (14 May 2012):
 This post actually almost had me in tears with laughter! I'm sorry but why the hell would you 'trick' somebody into thinking you're a slut?
No wonder this guy likes you! He's getting the easiest handjobs of his life, oh and I very much doubt it's going to advance any further than that. Easy girls are VERY RARELY relationship material.
I'm sorry but you sound very naive and it sounds like you need to gain some self respect.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 May 2012):
 I'll have to agree with "Wisdom" that your approach to this is not a good idea, mainly the suggestion that you are a "slut." Why would that be good for you, even if untrue? It would seem obvious that you are infatuated by the guy, but his thinking of you as a slut and "easy" is no likely route to a longterm relationship.
While I have enjoyed the pleasures of many "easy" women, rarely have I thought very highly of them. I did appreciate the sex, it was most always just for some carnal satisfaction. If that is all you expect and want, then go for it.
To answer your question, however, all you need to do is rub and stroke his private the best you can through his britches. Maybe that would get him off - but in my opinion, few guys would consider that to be very sexual or being a "slut." And what guy really wants to mess his pants? As "Wisdom" said, I think, this is a bad choice for you at this time in your life.
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reader, Wisdom +, writes (14 May 2012):
 Why why why would you do this?
Convincing a guy you are a slut just so he will like you is a terrible idea. You tricked him? Honey no, he will use you for this and then dump you.
Save this type of thing for someone who really deserves it and deserves you. The simple fact that you are asking us how to do it tells me that you are not ready for this... Pelase take some time out to really think about it and really ask why you would want to be with someone who is only with you becuase he thinks your a slut?
I beg you OP, Please Please think about what you are doing before you make a bad choice.
Good luck
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