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writes:ok following advice about this guy i would like to be friends with he works around the corner from me we always smile and say hi blah blah, well i did want to follow the advice and just ask him out for a friendly drink but i just couldnt do it so i wrote on a bit of card i would love to get to know you and perhaps sometime when your free we can go for a friendly drink and put my number. and i went in brought a drink and left it on his side of the counter he was the only one on that day so i know he got it well its been 5 days and i havnt heard anything i feel so stupid now part of me thinks next time im out should i pop in and say is that a no to having a drink or should i just say nothing i cant stop thinking about him though what do i do? x Reply to this Question
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reader, dont_worry  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 congratulations for being brave!
now..
dont feel that bad because he hasnt called,
because thats the way life goes, they are going to be a lot of ups & downs
so dont feel sad if this means a no.
feel happy because you were brave enough to take a chance.
next time you see him (only to confirm his answer)
say something like:
hey the drinks are still waiting for us
what are we going to do?
and then he will answer with lets not make them wait or with oo yes about that... blah blah i dont think so,
but feel prepared for both answers
dont feel sad okay? (:
GOOD LUCK!
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reader, Ileana +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Okay sweetie, maybe he didnt get the message and maybe hes seeing someone. But i think you should ask him in person. Then you can forget about him or enjoy a nice drink with him. Get know until you ask.
All my love
Ileana
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): NO. Don't say anything. You might put him on the spot and you might appear desperate.
Just put yourself in his shoes. If some guy dropped you that same note and you didn't call back five days later, why do you suppose you wouldn't have called him back?
Whatever your answer is must be pretty close to how he feels too.
Maybe he's not interested. Maybe he has a girlfriend. Or maybe he will call. Just give it another week.
P.S. Guys genuinely like to be the pursuer. So let him take it from here. And don't feel stupid. I've done stupid things too. But, that's how you learn.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Hi why don't you go and see him where he works, and say something like "There is a great pub that has been recommended to me by a friend and I was wondering if you would like go and check it out with me if you sometime when you are not too busy". If he says yes, great he will probably admire your courage,if not don't take this to heart he may have a girlfriend already. Please get back to me and tell me how it goes. Good luck x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (9 August 2007):
 Oh blimey how nerve wracking! I dont know, ummmm, is it possible hes not single? I think you did the right thing asking him out, you would of kicked yourself otherwise!
I might well go in there & do just that, say is that a no to the drink then?
If he doesnt want to it coule well be that hes not available, but atleast you know.
Keep us posted! He might even of just not wanted to seem too full on, and wanted to wai a few days?
Bit the bullet & ask him in person. Lifes too short ey!!!
Good luck.
Let us know!
C xxxxx
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